Jazz Posted September 3, 2012 Report Share Posted September 3, 2012 its mothers friend that the family have decided are fantastic, and got her to do it. shes on the siblings side, have told them that mother wants the money to go to charity, what charities, and they believe her over me. love to all, thinking of each and everyone of you xxxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
murtle Posted September 3, 2012 Report Share Posted September 3, 2012 It shouldn't affect him Alex, it is HR's responsibility to deal with the redundancy and to guide all employees through it - including management. It doesn't hurt to let HR think that will do what is necessary, even if you don't plan on going that way. Don't let them make you feel that it is personal, either for you or your manager. It's business and they need to conduct themselves accordingly. Jazz, that is awful, is it your Mom's friend settling the estate or is she just butting in? If necessary can you get a free 30mins with another lawyer to discuss your situation or go to CAB and see if they can help you resolve it? It may become a case of being deaf to their requests, and just knowing that you are a special lady in your own right with or without them. xx 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
griff Posted September 3, 2012 Report Share Posted September 3, 2012 Jazz, that is awful..... would CAB be able to help you?? or have you get a free law advice centre, i was just thinking that if you could get a bit of info and back it up with legal advice they may back off a bit Merledogs i really don't know what to say, yes your ex director took care of you but it is now that you are worried about...... they owe you and should be fair in your redundancy package, must be an awful situation to be in. my second cousin didn't get his gold....but a silver in his paralympic Judo!!!! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yantan Posted September 3, 2012 Report Share Posted September 3, 2012 (edited) Murtle talks a lot of sense Alex and I agree with her. I hope you had a raisin danish for me or a custard one. Oh there I go tormenting myself again. Edited to delete words I didn't mean to put in. Edited again for doing exactly the same thing in the first edit. Eye roll Edited September 3, 2012 by Yantan 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackmagic Posted September 3, 2012 Report Share Posted September 3, 2012 its mothers friend that the family have decided are fantastic, and got her to do it. shes on the siblings side, have told them that mother wants the money to go to charity, what charities, and they believe her over me. love to all, thinking of each and everyone of you xxxx Regardless of what she says your mother wanted, as there is not a will that is irrelevant. She must, by law distribute the estate according to the laws of inheritance. If the beneficiaries then want to donate their share to a charity that is their choice to do so. You would probably be entitled to legal aid if you are on benefits but CAB would be able to advise you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suzeanna Posted September 3, 2012 Report Share Posted September 3, 2012 Oh dear...Alex and Jazz you both seem to be having a bad time of it, for differing reasons! In both cases though the law is clear, Alex the company should owe you something over and above the set redundancy after all the effort you've put in for them, and Jazz...if your mother died without leaving a will, then the law of intestacy says if she has no living husband, her estate should be divided equally amongst her living relatives, children first. Her friend has no right to stick her oar in unless there was a will and she was named as an executor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snow Posted September 3, 2012 Report Share Posted September 3, 2012 Jazz I am joint executor of my mums estate and did all the probate and settling of the estate with my brother and without a solicitor, so at the moment I'm pretty clued up to dealing with finalising estates etc. What the others have told you is correct, if there is no will then the estate MUST go through probate and letters of administration must be applied for through the court, absolutely NOTHING can be disposed of until thats been granted, and you need to contact the court asap to register that you have an interest in the estate and have NOT appointed anyone to act on your behalf NOR have you vacated any of your legal rights. http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Governmentcitizensandrights/Death/Preparation/DG_10029802 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacobean Posted September 3, 2012 Report Share Posted September 3, 2012 (edited) Glad you have some sound advice to work on there Jazz. Ring them in the morning. You are in the right hugs Alex you look out for yourself and don't worry about anyone at the company. You have worked damn hard to get where you are today and they've thrown you out like an old shoe. You will have the last laugh when the dust is settled as your career is looking very bright. Your ex director won't be dragged through anything. You have rights and make sure you get what you very rightly deserve. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty about anything. Your conscience is clear. Big well done to silver medallist! I want cake.... Edited September 3, 2012 by Jacobean Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazz Posted September 3, 2012 Report Share Posted September 3, 2012 thank you all, I love you xxxxxxxxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eve Posted September 3, 2012 Report Share Posted September 3, 2012 Jazz - can only agree with what the others have said. No one can give your share of your mother's estate to charity or anywhere else. Please go to CAB if you think they are trying to go behind your back and do that. Alex - that is emotional blackmail from your ex-director. You have to do what is right for you and that is NOT giving up on getting the best redundancy package for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eve Posted September 3, 2012 Report Share Posted September 3, 2012 Griff - sorry about your Nan, hope she is now at peace. Even more sorry for you having to deal with your f*ckwit family and that everything is falling to your dad to arrange and pay for. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merledogs Posted September 4, 2012 Author Report Share Posted September 4, 2012 Moaning Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yantan Posted September 4, 2012 Report Share Posted September 4, 2012 We had a luffley day yesterday weather wise but we seem to have had more rain overnight. The sun is struggling to get out this morning - I hope he wins the battle. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackmagic Posted September 4, 2012 Report Share Posted September 4, 2012 i had some lovely news today, my second cousin has got through his bout at the paralympics and will be competing for gold in judo....... his brother joe lost his bout but has another chance Griff, did you now you can watch the Paralympics on Youtube jUDO Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loo Posted September 4, 2012 Report Share Posted September 4, 2012 Beautius day in Penrith - but just noticed the trees on the roundabout are changing colour.....too soon, too soon!!!!!! Hugs to all that are having a tough time. I do not have words of wisdom but am thinking good thoughts for y'all. xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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