Whizzie Posted January 18, 2014 Report Share Posted January 18, 2014 Just read back and am shocked by the story of your pup Griff. I'd be absolutely livid even though I don't insure mine any more but have my own dog fund instead. Happy decorating Alex. I am not here often I know but please be assured I have never left any of my dogs anywhere. Even though my conscience is 100% clear the remark has made me feel uncomfortable. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
griff Posted January 18, 2014 Report Share Posted January 18, 2014 Just read back and am shocked by the story of your pup Griff. I'd be absolutely livid even though I don't insure mine any more but have my own dog fund instead. Happy decorating Alex. I am not here often I know but please be assured I have never left any of my dogs anywhere. Even though my conscience is 100% clear the remark has made me feel uncomfortable. Cheers whizzie, i am livid and now super paranoid Lol. I agree about the comment.... made me feel a bit uncomfortable too 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazz Posted January 18, 2014 Report Share Posted January 18, 2014 that statement is upsetting my trudy died. she was my world I might have rescued another little soul, but that will never stop me crying, wherever I am, every time I think of trudy 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
murtle Posted January 18, 2014 Report Share Posted January 18, 2014 Not sure how helpful the comment is and feel it could / should have been made in private. I don't feel guilty, cause I don't have any dogs! Sounds like the dog has landed on it's feet though so all good. xxx 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whizzie Posted January 18, 2014 Report Share Posted January 18, 2014 Jazz - it is not unusual to take on a dog that might be younger or more healthy after the loss of a much loved old dog. It's not replacing the old dog in my eyes - the love and the memories stay forever in your heart. I like to think of it that helping another in need is a tribute to your much loved departed friend. The earlier post talks of meeting the old dogs who in this case seem to have been left in the care of a friend - it can't therefore refer to a deceased dog. I suppose we shouldn't be upset by it if it doesn't refer to us but as it is normal to have feelings of (usually unjustified) guilt connected with any death it is easy for the innocent among us to feel uncomfortable faced with such a statement. I've never abandoned a dog but have had two put to sleep in the past (in 2009 and 2010) owing to illness and old age and I have since adopted two more (in 2011). With so many dogs needing homes, adopting a dog when you have a space created in this way must surely be a good thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snow Posted January 18, 2014 Report Share Posted January 18, 2014 I have only just seen the comments - and also feel them inappropriate - if Laura felt strongly about the issue then it would have been better dealt with in private rather than making a general accusation which leaves everyone feeling uncomfortable here and thinking that they need to defend or explain themselves if they have new dogs in their lives. Peoples lives change and if they choose to keep information to themselves then it is a matter between them and the rescue or people concerned and not for us to judge without knowing all the facts. I'm tempted to remove the posts but as they have now been up a while it seems a bit of a moot point, they have been seen and addressed, I can think of no one currently posting on Refuge who fits the description and am not going to speculate or allow speculation as to who it is or what went on. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suzeanna Posted January 18, 2014 Report Share Posted January 18, 2014 Well I know it isn't me, and we are running out of people it could be. Personally I think either names should be named or mouth should be kept shut, otherwise it seems like making trouble for the sake of it. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happylittlegreensquirrel Posted January 19, 2014 Report Share Posted January 19, 2014 Hello Laura , I hope you and your family are well and I was very sorry to read of Vena's passing , clearly you are very upset by the issue and it might be a better resolution for you to talk to the person / people concerned directly. I don't think Laura's comments are about me as I trust she would have asked me direct and I am sure my mum would have been terribly excited if she met someone I knew and knew the dogs and would have texted me ( or faxed me as she still calls it ) but I felt that as the subject was out there and some folk might have thought it referred to Mark and I that I would just post anyway My mum adopted Holly and my cats after Mark and I decided to move full time to Sri Lanka , Mum and Aisling have been caring for Noah for the last year while we made all the arrangements with our residency visas which as you may remember took 6 times as long as anyone predicted and resulted in Mark and I actually have to leave Sri Lanka last autumn for 2 months to get paperwork sorted at the High Commission in London. Now we are fully resident we can safely bring him in , its a one way journey for Noah as to return to the UK would involve 6 months in Quarantine so we had to be sure everything was legally sorted. I also had some real worries about his immune system being able to cope with some of our tropical diseases and had a number of talks with specialists before making the final decision ( Aisling and her BF would/will adopt him if for some reason he cannot fly ) When I adopted Holly, Noah and my cats I had no idea where my life would be 10 years later , seriously can anyone who first met me online have predicted Mark and I would have given up our jobs and moved to work unpaid in a developing country ? Thats the thing isn't it our lives can change direction and our paths radically alter to the point that we have to make choices Noah will if he passes his medical be flying with us in April this year , a year later than actually planned ! Holly would never ever ever have been suitable for either the flight or the lifestyle in SL where as Noah I think won't notice he is in a diff country I also felt that none of my cats would have made the move well , 2 of them Gertie and Mr Tibbs are long hair and none of them would be equipped to deal with the climate or have the inbuilt "smarts" to not try and catch snakes I do have 2 cats in Sri Lanka Dennis and Tiger , both rescues and Mark and I have a visiting roaming street dog called Errol who leaves with us part time , none of whom have replaced Holly , Gertie , Mr Tibbs and Salem but enriched our lives in SL. its not just Holly and the cats who I left behind , its Aisling and my Mum , Marks son his wife and their children , off course we get to see them all once or twice a year when we visit which is nice but not the same of course Sam Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merledogs Posted January 19, 2014 Author Report Share Posted January 19, 2014 Moaning Headcount - Timmy (check), Taffy (check), Beau (check); Max and Milly's ashes (check). 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happylittlegreensquirrel Posted January 19, 2014 Report Share Posted January 19, 2014 Morning Alex , how's your work situation now ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snow Posted January 19, 2014 Report Share Posted January 19, 2014 Sam and indeed everyone else, no one needs to have to justify themselves to the rest of us, we all have to do what we have to do based on whatever life throws at us and hope that those who know us won't judge and if they do .... well perhaps they need to walk a while in the other persons shoes. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
murtle Posted January 19, 2014 Report Share Posted January 19, 2014 It's stopped raining here, now the temperature is dropping....can't win!! He'll Alex, hope you are well! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazz Posted January 19, 2014 Report Share Posted January 19, 2014 jerry lee tapped my face gently, then threw up next to my head. at least she told me lol just going to change the bed ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merledogs Posted January 19, 2014 Author Report Share Posted January 19, 2014 Morning Alex , how's your work situation now ? Still stressful, thanks very much for asking He'll Alex, hope you are well Hi Murtley My boys made a new friend on our walk yesterday, a white shepherd called Caber. He was only ten months old but had the loveliest temperament and Taffy adores him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snow Posted January 19, 2014 Report Share Posted January 19, 2014 Laura has been placed on moderation to prevent any further posting on the subject - if anyone else wants to come here and cause upset to our regular members then I respectfully suggest they move along and take it elsewhere. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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