eve Posted December 18, 2018 Report Share Posted December 18, 2018 Pleased something good has come out of a tragedy Griff. Why are you waiting for a train? (well obviously to get home, but where you been?) Not good at keeping up lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
griff Posted December 19, 2018 Report Share Posted December 19, 2018 Eve,yes...now he is talking to his family again I don't have to bother worrying about him I was on my way out.... I was heading off to meet my friend for a drink, he is such a lovely guy.....has terminal cancer but is making the best of things. We used to drink together every night but he was forced out of the club we drink in, by the time he is coming out I am heading back to cov to go to my next pub so although we message, it's the first time in a while we have got together Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suzeanna Posted December 19, 2018 Report Share Posted December 19, 2018 I bet you'll still worry about him anyway, Griff. Sad about your friend but hope he is still finding things to enjoy in life. I've just read the letter properly that came with my new CAT scan appointment, it says you'll be in the department for 2 hours and because of the contrast, another half an hour after that. Hell's bells! As any of you who've had those scans knows, you have to have your arms up above your head. Even a few minutes of that kills my shoulders, they hurt for ages afterwards. How am I going to manage 2 hours? Dreading it already and it's three weeks away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
griff Posted December 19, 2018 Report Share Posted December 19, 2018 Suzeanna... you won't need to keep your arms up that long, if it's like what I had, then you have to drink 2 pints of water, go get into gowns, run through the paperwork and have a cannula put in....I know it's easy to say but try to put it out of your mind for Christmas Yes...I will always worry about Steve, no clue why. Might go for a little walk in a bit beings as the sun is out Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suzeanna Posted December 19, 2018 Report Share Posted December 19, 2018 Hope you had your sunny walk Griff. Thankfully I won't have to wear a gown so long as no zips or metal clasps on clothes. I hope as it isn't ink involving my bladder I won't need to drink lots of water either! Bloody phone, where did ink come from? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
griff Posted December 19, 2018 Report Share Posted December 19, 2018 Lol...I swear I spend half my life trying to work out what I have typed. Fingers crossed for your scan. I am seeing my consultant 27th, I am thinking of asking if I can stop treatment for a bit...I am so run down and actually beginning to feel a bit depressed..I know I will be o.k but my life is just a mess Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suzeanna Posted December 19, 2018 Report Share Posted December 19, 2018 Sending you a hug Griff, not much help I know but I'm sure many of us will be thinking of you. Take it easy, no scrubbing tiles and cooking for Steve, he's a big boy he can do it himself! Put yourself first. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eve Posted December 19, 2018 Report Share Posted December 19, 2018 Aw Griff, you do so much for other people, wish I could do something for you. (( big hugs)) and thinking of you xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
griff Posted December 19, 2018 Report Share Posted December 19, 2018 Thanks both...I won't be cooking for anyone...let alone Steve lol I will be o.k, I just think I am really really run down and very tired, my own fault for thinking i can just carry on Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owl Posted December 19, 2018 Report Share Posted December 19, 2018 Get some rest and let everyone else get on with it. I hope you feel better soon. Am I the only one who thinks it is good to get a grievance out into the open, but not so good to sit on it for a year and then meet the person for coffee and tear strips off them in a shopping mall where they are not going to make a fuss? It was a misunderstanding which could have been sorted a year ago, and has left me feeling like rubbish. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suzeanna Posted December 19, 2018 Report Share Posted December 19, 2018 Owl, I doubt very much that you are the one who should be feeling like rubbish. Yes, air a grievance but at the time, not so far down the line and certainly not in a public place. If this was a friend at one time, sounds as if they are one you can do without! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owl Posted December 19, 2018 Report Share Posted December 19, 2018 I can definitely do without, but to her it looks as if I am throwing toys out of pram. Just going to break off contact completely. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
griff Posted December 20, 2018 Report Share Posted December 20, 2018 Owl, that's really not nice... even if it had been left a year and they really felt the need to say something, if they must...fine ( although I think it should be said at the time) but do it privately, I totally agree, sounds like you can do without them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazz Posted December 20, 2018 Report Share Posted December 20, 2018 sod em! stuff em! leave em! you dont need that type of person in your life, none of us do. thats why i rarely see my daughter in law. other people wont answer her back, I will! got the dentist this morning, see what the dogs have done to my teeth when they smacked me under the jaw so my teeth bashed together love to all my eyes painful so no doubt wont be able to see properly out of it, so more waffly bollox than normal lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owl Posted December 20, 2018 Report Share Posted December 20, 2018 I am sure the original misunderstanding was caused by grief at the loss of a close mutual friend. That was the one who I visited regularly in hospital for 4 months, which was a long journey. The person I fell out with is her friend and housemate, who felt I had let both her and our late friend down by not helping to sort out all her belongings and papers. I did offer, and she said not at the moment. I thought I had made it clear that I would help if asked, but obviously I did not. Then because I did not offer again, she assumed I did not care and could not be bothered so she started being cold and unfriendly. This resulting in me staying clear. We met up because she had some books to return which our late friend had borrowed from me. She sounded on the phone as if she really wanted to see me, and even offered me one of friend's books which she thought I might like, but I already have that one so I thanked her and declined. Then once we were face to face and daughter was absent for a few minutes she let fly. The original misunderstanding is something that can be sorted, but not the situation yesterday. I wanted to go home but it would have upset the daughter if I had done that so we ended up having a cup of tea together which was very uncomfortable. I have decided to leave it until the new year and then politely explain that I will not stay in contact with anyone who has a go at me in public. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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