merledogs Posted January 17, 2015 Report Share Posted January 17, 2015 This thread brings back unhappy memories To anybody in this sort of situation who has kids I would say if you can't do it for yourself or think you don't deserve any better, think about your children and let them be your motivation to leave. I'm fifty next week and still suffer the consequences because my mother stayed with my stepfather for 8 hellish years. Your children deserve better and you deserve better. Even if you leave the relationship with nothing but the clothes on your back, you'll be much happier in the long run. The police take these things far more seriously these days. A few years ago a friend of mine's husband attacked her for the first time so she reported him to the police, who were very understanding and actually persuaded her to kick him out. The policeman said that he wouldn't stop at once and next time she might not be alive to tell the tale. According to Women's Aid : One incident of domestic violence is reported to the police every minute. On average, 2 women a week are killed by a current or former male partner. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackmagic Posted January 17, 2015 Report Share Posted January 17, 2015 According to Women's Aid : One incident of domestic violence is reported to the police every minute. On average, 2 women a week are killed by a current or former male partner. That is a shocking statistic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
murtle Posted January 17, 2015 Report Share Posted January 17, 2015 You are very inspiring Ruthi. That is scary Alex. xxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happylittlegreensquirrel Posted January 18, 2015 Report Share Posted January 18, 2015 Ruthi great to hear from you I am really pleased this thread helped so many people and although most people who contributed are no longer active the legacy of their words is very powerful Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ruthi (borrowadog) Posted February 13, 2016 Report Share Posted February 13, 2016 Another year has gone by! My don't they fly by! I thought of you all on the day, but was silly busy. Seamus my 10years going on 15 beardie cross is very poorly. He has had a very rough few years health wise, and is now very frail and senile. My days are spent caring for him and protecting him from the younger dogs who find his pacing and vacant moments extremely irritating. It wont be for long. But otherwise things are good. And I don't forget! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owl Posted February 13, 2016 Report Share Posted February 13, 2016 Hi Ruthi, We don't forget you either. Thinking of you and Seamus. Looking back to last year, I posted something quite inappropriate as somehow I misread and thought Seamus had already departed. Wasn't very compos mentis myself that day, as it was the day after my 95 year old mum had died in her sleep, a release from increasing weakness and dementia. I must have been more shaken up than I thought. Apologies xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yantan Posted February 14, 2016 Report Share Posted February 14, 2016 Good to hear from you Ruthi but I am sorry to that Rufus is poorly, bless him. I'll put him on my positive thoughts list. Yes indeed, the years sure do fly by. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ruthi (borrowadog) Posted March 5, 2017 Report Share Posted March 5, 2017 Gosh! I missed the date! I think that must be a good sign, although the experiences are not forgotten. Seamus died a few weeks after I posted. The vet finally realised that he probably had a brain tumour, and looking back we'd seen the first signs eighteen months earlier, but just hadn't managed to make the connection. When his pacing lasted all one evening we made the decision, and I know it was the right one. He went very peacefully, asleep on the sofa until the vets fiddling with his back leg woke him up. So we poked steak into the front end, and he just stopped eating after a while. I still miss him, such a huge character!We have Jimmy the shrunk-in-the-wash akita (Pom x chi actually!) and Reggie the dog reactive lurcher now. Love them both to bits, but they are in the prime of life and haven't dug quite so deeply into my heart as the oldies do! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazz Posted March 5, 2017 Report Share Posted March 5, 2017 I sorry you lost him. I have lost too many, but my dogs now make up for them, and look after me, I never know who is coming next, but a tiny yorkie might be a foster, but wouldn't leave, one day it will happen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ruthi (borrowadog) Posted January 24, 2018 Report Share Posted January 24, 2018 Its nearly 12 years - TWELVE YEARS! since this thread changed my life. I don't like the anniversary to go unremarked, because I remain so deeply grateful. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eve Posted January 26, 2018 Report Share Posted January 26, 2018 So many have come and gone since this thread started but the message is still the same. So pleased you're still so strong Ruthi and getting on with a happy life xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owl Posted January 27, 2018 Report Share Posted January 27, 2018 Good to hear from you both, Ruthi and Eve xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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