loobie Posted January 12, 2012 Report Share Posted January 12, 2012 Sorry to jump on and moan but I am really fed up at the moment, waiting for eldest son to move out , at the moment my ex o/h turns up everyday to see his son, and eldest is turning into him, needing to run away Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eve Posted January 12, 2012 Report Share Posted January 12, 2012 Sorry to jump on and moan but I am really fed up at the moment, waiting for eldest son to move out , at the moment my ex o/h turns up everyday to see his son, and eldest is turning into him, needing to run away Moan away all you need Hope it's just a temporary teenage blip with your son. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trallwm farm Posted January 12, 2012 Report Share Posted January 12, 2012 Sorry to jump on and moan but I am really fed up at the moment, waiting for eldest son to move out , at the moment my ex o/h turns up everyday to see his son, and eldest is turning into him, needing to run away Im sorry you are going through all this again Looby. You know where I am if you want to rant or a place to bury the Ex Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
loobie Posted January 12, 2012 Report Share Posted January 12, 2012 Eve, I wish it was just a blip but he has severe ADHD and the problems have been going on for years. Lesley thank you so much although the way it is going it will be me being buried, he and his dad are making everyone's lives hell, their dad seems to have forgotten he has 3 sons and not just 1. They are looking at houses on the weekend and we are all just hoping they go. Eldest has told me that when he leaves he will never see or speak to me again, although I am heartbroken I cannot wait till the day he leaves ... I am so sorry if this sounds uncaring but this is where he has pushed me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merledogs Posted January 13, 2012 Report Share Posted January 13, 2012 Morning Loobs TGIF Busy day, but at least there's a weekend at the end of it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazz Posted January 13, 2012 Report Share Posted January 13, 2012 Im sorry your going through this loobie. I did with my eldest. He didnt have ADHD, but was a nasty piece of work. He moved in with his girlfriend, and hes a lovely man now. if we live apart, we are fine, but too alike to be together too long. Im hoping my other son will get out of bed soon as the wind blew 2 of the fence panels outwards at the bottom. the dogs have just realised and are trying to dig out. the washing machine has leaked onto the floor I had put down last year due to the same thing,so need the mopped up and looked at its all go! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suzeanna Posted January 13, 2012 Report Share Posted January 13, 2012 Loobie, if that's your son's attitude, I'm afraid I wouldn't be waiting for him to decide he's going, his bags would be packed and he and they would be outside the door when your ex next turned up! Jazz, can you get Planet Rock on the radio at all? If so, I'd place a radio with it on..turned up..outside your son's bedroom door, that should do the trick! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazz Posted January 13, 2012 Report Share Posted January 13, 2012 wow! he got out of bed, pulled the washing machine out, its bone dry, so dont know where this smell of old water is coming from ... SWEPT BEHIND THE MACHINE BEFORE PUTTING IT BACK!!!!! then went in the garden to look at the fence panel, we have put something in front of it, but the builder is coming this afternoon then went back to bed lol I gave away my 2 big dog crates to the local petserch lady yesterday,so the stuff I had to pull out to get to them are being picked up by people off of freecycle this morning. Im getting this place tipped out. so much lying around so it can go Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kittycat Posted January 13, 2012 Report Share Posted January 13, 2012 Jazz, can you get Planet Rock on the radio at all? If so, I'd place a radio with it on..turned up..outside your son's bedroom door, that should do the trick! though that wouldn't get me out of bed but I'd very much appreciate the choice of music Loobie I hope things improve for you soon xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
griff Posted January 13, 2012 Report Share Posted January 13, 2012 :GroupHug: Loobie, stay strong perhaps with some time and space between you both things may improve i do agree though, how comes he can't bog off to his dads?? Jazz was there water on the floor or does it just smell?? if it is smell, what we have found is that water stands in the seal of ours, if you pull the seal apart (you know how there is a gap in the seal) you will probably find thats where the smell is coming from (ours reeks if we forget to wipe it out after each use) dogs were play fighting yesterday and laney got his claw stuck in diez's bioflow collar.... the noise was awful so now diez can't wear her bioflow Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
loobie Posted January 13, 2012 Report Share Posted January 13, 2012 Thanx guys If I could physically throw him out then I would but he is a very physical person and to be honest I couldnt cope with the repercussions it is bad enough when he shouts and the dogs try to defend me and his brothers get scared. Their father is a an evil bastard (as some of you may know) and moves from one/two women to the next. he is living with one but planning to move in with eldest as he has one coming up from London to live with him, they are looking at houses at the weekend and hopefully he will be gone soon. He also told me he would be changing his number when he moves out, at the moment I just cannot wait for him to go. It is hard as I love him but hate him at the same time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kittycat Posted January 13, 2012 Report Share Posted January 13, 2012 Loobie I can't imagine what that must be like I truly hope the situation gets resolved quickly and with as little stress and heartache to you and the boys I've just spent of a load of Barclaycards money on stuff for my "business" . . . .I'm slightly freaking out now while trying to tell myself is only money and wasted more of less useful things Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
murtle Posted January 13, 2012 Report Share Posted January 13, 2012 Loobie, can you get any advise from CAB on evicting him? Might be worth knowing how to do it incase things change or it takes longer than planned. You shouldn't be having to live like that and nor should your other children and dogs. And, not you don't sound horrible, he does. Congratulations kitty cat it is only money, and better spent on things you enjoy than things you don't! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazz Posted January 13, 2012 Report Share Posted January 13, 2012 (edited) there was some water on the floor the other day so took it we had a leak, but the smell is horrible, with no leak. ill have a look at the seal, thank you xx Edited January 13, 2012 by Jazz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owl Posted January 13, 2012 Report Share Posted January 13, 2012 (edited) Loobie, hope he is out at the weekend We had a lovely surprise this morning. Wispa's great friend Finn the labradoodle turned up with his mum, and while they were playing in the garden another pal, Oscar lab x staffy turned up as well with his mum, so all dogs had a really good romp. The humans sat down or stood close to fence as the amiable Oscar is built like a tank. Or possibly a flying fortress. The mini horses were fascinated and stood in a row by the fence watching all the wrestling. It has done Wispa the world of good. After they left she spent a couple of hours quietly in the garden by herself, until I brought her in for the 2 till 4 No Barking time, just in case something came past and set her off. Edited January 13, 2012 by owl Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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