griff Posted September 27, 2019 Report Share Posted September 27, 2019 Just checked apparently the person named on the deed can have the grave opened and if that's him I guess an injunction would be the way to go...what a rotten man, he obviously knew your mum was unhappy and now he is stipulating he should be buried with her, that's just horrible...must be very upsetting for you xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yantan Posted September 27, 2019 Report Share Posted September 27, 2019 No you haven't upset me at all Griff. I am taking legal advice but am hoping that my half sister isn't even considering it. I just have to be ready to act quickly if she plans for it. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
griff Posted September 27, 2019 Report Share Posted September 27, 2019 Sincerely hope common sense and decency prevails Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eve Posted September 27, 2019 Report Share Posted September 27, 2019 Oh, Yantan, what a horrible situation. Sending you all good thoughts to deal with this xx 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazz Posted September 27, 2019 Author Report Share Posted September 27, 2019 this situation brings out all emotions. I lost my family when mother died because of rows I didn't create but got blamed for. I hope it pans out ok for you xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yantan Posted September 27, 2019 Report Share Posted September 27, 2019 (edited) Yay! My half sister took on board that my brother and I objected back when we first found out. She wouldn't want him buried with her mother so why would we. He's going to be cremated and neither her or any us gives a damn what happens to the ashes. He really isn't a nice man and what you sew you reap comes to mind. Thanks for listening to me vent! Edited September 27, 2019 by Yantan Missing wurds 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
griff Posted September 27, 2019 Report Share Posted September 27, 2019 Absolutely bloody fantastic and thoroughly chuffed to bits for you. As for that letter, put it in his coffin and let it burn with him!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suzeanna Posted September 27, 2019 Report Share Posted September 27, 2019 If he's still alive, but unconscious..as they say hearing is the last sense to go, I suppose it would be viewed as very cruel to tell him what's going to happen when he's dead? Then again..if he is a cruel man, could be just what he deserves. Sorry..I'm not nice am I? 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owl Posted September 27, 2019 Report Share Posted September 27, 2019 Just caught up with this drama. Thank goodness that is sorted out. Sounds like someone who doesn't want to relinquish control even when his life ends. I didn't know that graves have deeds. That probably means that my sister and I hold the deeds to maternal grandparents' grave. No idea where they are, though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owl Posted September 27, 2019 Report Share Posted September 27, 2019 Still fighting horrible lower back and sciatic pain. Saw chiropractor yesterday which helped but it came back last night. I am okayish as long as I am walking about. I cannot walk about all night! Last 2 nights it hit me a couple of hours after I went to bed, had to take painkillers. Chiropractor now on hols. Feeling low and useless. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suzeanna Posted September 27, 2019 Report Share Posted September 27, 2019 Owl, you have my sympathy, back pain really drags you down. Have you considered acupuncture at all? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owl Posted September 27, 2019 Report Share Posted September 27, 2019 Staying with the chiropractor as she usually sorts it. Just unfortunate she won't be around for a bit. If I continue with the cold pack and the simple exercises she gave me, it should help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
griff Posted September 27, 2019 Report Share Posted September 27, 2019 Suzeanna...I said pretty much the same to Yantan myself and I don't consider myself horrible.. just honest and up front and had he lived near me I would have made sure his last days were anything but peaceful... hopefully if there's an afterlife he will be paid back tenfold! Owl...hope your back pain eases off soon xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owl Posted September 27, 2019 Report Share Posted September 27, 2019 Thanks Griff and Suzeanna. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suzeanna Posted September 27, 2019 Report Share Posted September 27, 2019 Owl, have you got a tens machine? I've got one if you think it might help? You stick the patch over the painful area and turn it on and it puts an electrical current through. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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