safneo Posted May 23, 2011 Report Share Posted May 23, 2011 Snow, sorry to hear you are poorly. Be grateful though that you are expected NOT to go to work. I would be expected to work regardless! No end of times I have had to leg it down two flights of stares tryingn to be sick until I get to the bathroom! Alex, could that be your diver....whatsit? You always seem to get it when you are particularly stressed. my brother says I have to 'step up to the plate and be strong' what the fcuk have I been doing? Tell your brother to fcuk off Sorry you're having such a carp time Agree with Alex! Tell him you are not Mums ONLY child! And you have enough to deal with with your own health! There is one in every family hun! Ours is Kent with a 'U'!! Massive hugs to you We have MIL ashes back and have just booked a weekend in Cornwall to 'take her home'. Twatty BIL (see above) was going to send her down with some lorry driver, which is marginally better than posting her down which was what he was originally wanting to do! Michelle I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO jealous of you!! I can't wait until I can leave the hellhole that I work at.. Shame as I love my job just not many people that work there that make it difficult to bear. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazz Posted May 23, 2011 Report Share Posted May 23, 2011 he didnt like what I had to say but stuff him. its ok saying hes working and is busy, and doesnt know what to say when he rings her. so! doesnt mean he doesnt ring her! I rung her this evening. she fell over when she was on her own, had to ring her friend to pick her up off the floor. no doubt if I hadnt rung she wouldnt have told me. she still wont go into the hospice. ill just worry some more now and trudy has just attacked freddie. blood all up the walls. ive thrown her in the bathroom to cool down, her and me. I dont know why she does it, really dont. ive lost my voice shouting at her. ill just break some more Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owl Posted May 23, 2011 Report Share Posted May 23, 2011 OMG Jazz what's the damage? Poor you and poor Freddie. Hope things improve tomorrow. Sounds like your bro is really trying to dodge the issue. He has no problem in saying things to you, does he? Won't do him any harm to ring your mum and manage a chat. Off to catch up on some sleep soon. It was very windy and chilly on our walk but we had a good time. Archie was def not the smartest dog in the wood. He likes to pick up half a fallen tree and carry it about. This evening he tried to pick up a whole 10 ft tree and wondered why he couldn't carry it off. Possibly because it was not a fallen one but firmly rooted in the ground Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merledogs Posted May 24, 2011 Author Report Share Posted May 24, 2011 (edited) Morning Andrea - I don't think it's my diverticulitis, I think I just ate something which disagreed with me What a feckwit your BIL is Julia - poor Adam Jazz - more RMF : Exam result due tonight, plus I am stressing about a situation at work, so spent half of last night in tears. I am sick and tired of being constantly anxious. Edited May 24, 2011 by merledogs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazz Posted May 24, 2011 Report Share Posted May 24, 2011 hugs to all xxxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snow Posted May 24, 2011 Report Share Posted May 24, 2011 Alex Sickness is gone though I now have a gurgly tummy, hubby now has it however, so clearly some kind of bug. I'm going to work today and he's staying home sick. So many of us with difficult work situations - I had thought mine was resolved, at least resolved in so far as I'd decided to just let the other person "get on with it" and try not to be resentful and re-establish a cordial relationship with them however I have now learned that they appear to have moved on to making "suggestions" about another aspect of my job and yet again this apears to have been discussed and things set in motion without my knowledge or being consulted ... more certain than ever that someone is after my job and trying to shape it so that the parts of my job which require specialist and techncal skills are farmed off elsewhere since the person who wants my job doesnt have those abilities. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happylittlegreensquirrel Posted May 24, 2011 Report Share Posted May 24, 2011 Have not been around for ages nice to see alot of familiar names. I am now a "Door Supervisor" Or Bouncer, I am self employed and work keeps me ver busy, especially in the summer with all the festivals and events. My dogs are as mad but as loving as ever and they love the forest - so how is everyone - seems like forever Hello how lovely to see you ive just had to tell my brother how ill mother is. lots of upset, so now got a bad stomach. just swallowed the imodium. was due out to run errands, end of that. I dont know if my other brother knows, but dont want to ring him. I hate my life my brother says I have to 'step up to the plate and be strong' what the fcuk have I been doing? he didnt like what I had to say but stuff him. its ok saying hes working and is busy, and doesnt know what to say when he rings her. so! doesnt mean he doesnt ring her! I rung her this evening. she fell over when she was on her own, had to ring her friend to pick her up off the floor. no doubt if I hadnt rung she wouldnt have told me. she still wont go into the hospice. ill just worry some more now and trudy has just attacked freddie. blood all up the walls. ive thrown her in the bathroom to cool down, her and me. I dont know why she does it, really dont. ive lost my voice shouting at her. ill just break some more Jazz you do have a lot on your plate with both you and your mothers ill health , maybe your brother does not know how to cope ( not everyone does ) but thats not going to make it any easier for you and you may need to look else where for the help and support both you and mum need Maybe someone else here can suggest some options for you Re dogs sorry ( I am out of touch ) are these all your own dogs or are any fosters ? I know you have a new puppy as well could that have upset the balance between exsisting adult dogs ? equally could any of the dogs be picking up on your concerns about your mum ? If you are having to isolate Trudy in a bathroom and Freddie is physically injured it really sounds like you need some help Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lil_angel Posted May 24, 2011 Report Share Posted May 24, 2011 for all poorly & stressed people. I have really itchy feet and feel I need to go somewhere or Im going to explode. I havent had a properly holiday in about 5 years as either works got in the way or Im just a total wuus about doing something on my own. Doesnt help the fact a couple of friends from uni I used to go places with now book things and dont even ask me anymore if I fancy going along. Am definately in a woe is me corner this morning so apologies as there are people with a hell of alot more on their plate at the moment than my trivial whinge. Just helps to write it down sometimes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazz Posted May 24, 2011 Report Share Posted May 24, 2011 they are both mine.they live happily 99.9% of the time. but a dog yelping sets her off, seeking out freddie and attacking him. shes done it since before ruby and the pup came. not every time there is a yelp, but thats what will do it. she never attempts it with any of the others, not even a foster, although the foster is ill. shes nicked the top of his ear, think thats it. hes caught her eye, but its not bothering her at all. shes licking her foot, but shes not limping. she wont stop until we get her off. if we let her out of the room too soon, she will start again. the rest of the time you cant fault her. poor freddies in shock after, as he cant see her coming, or where shes attacking from. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merledogs Posted May 24, 2011 Author Report Share Posted May 24, 2011 Amy RMF : I still have this frickin headache. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suzeanna Posted May 24, 2011 Report Share Posted May 24, 2011 Jazz, you certainly seem to have more than your fair share of problems! Your brother is being a typical bloke..let the woman deal with emotional issues...my daughter in law's brother is just the same, he went down to supposedly stay with them for four days and look after his mum (disabled and living with my son and dil) to give them a chance to go out together..he lasted a day and a half, had a row with his mother and beggared off again! How oftenn do your dogs kick off like this? I had two papillons who started fighting, and they got to bad, I had to rehome one of them before some serious damage was done. Hope it doesn't come to that. Alex...is this the same work prob you were having before, with the same person? if so can't HR help? you shouldn't be in tears over it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kats n greys Posted May 24, 2011 Report Share Posted May 24, 2011 Jazz. All those who are going through problems at work- you have my sympathy - I've been "signed off work" due to "Work related stress" Ray's dad has been transferred to Hammersmith Hospital and we are now worrying about his Mum getting from St Albans - although his brother has been great and took her yesterday - he works and can't do it too often- we are trying to persuade her to stay in either the hospital accommodation or a local B&B. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gooster Posted May 24, 2011 Report Share Posted May 24, 2011 :GroupHug: to all in need at the moment, seems there are a few of you Amy, you sound very similar to me, with regards to friends etc. A couple of years ago I decided to go on holiday on my own and ended up in Mexico for 2 weeks. It was an all inclusive resort, so I had no real need to leave the hotel once I had checked in, and it was amazing. I spent 2 weeks relaxing by the pool and on the beach with my books. It was a bit scary to take the plunge and go by myself, my family were worried I'd get murdered or something, but it was fine!! I would go back tomorrow if I had the money and time off work!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazz Posted May 24, 2011 Report Share Posted May 24, 2011 thank you for your good wishes, ive got nowhere else to vent. mother fell over last night, rung a neighbour to pick her up. she wont admit that she needs 24hr care. it is once in a while that she attacks him, as not too many yelps in the house, but then just never know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happylittlegreensquirrel Posted May 24, 2011 Report Share Posted May 24, 2011 Amy as Gooster says travelling on your own can be a lot of fun and not boring , I am currently living on my own in Melbourne and with my copy of the Rough Guide I am rarely without something to do or see at the weekend Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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