collies r best Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 There has been a job advertised which i would love, its working in a petshop [dont think it'll have pets for sale ].These jobs are few and far between over here. The place isnt even 5 mins walk from home so ideal for Izzie for me to get home for her at lunch. I dont have retail experience but loads of animal experience and of a large variety although i'm far from an expert. But heres the hitch...my daughters applying for the job and doesnt know that i was going to apply. My daughter is 20 and lives at home and is not the forgiving type. I know the odds are neither of us will get the job but she'll go mad if i go after it So what do i do, should i leave it or apply quietly and if it got past the interview stage then discuss it with my daughter. I really am stuck because its a job i'd love but i know all hell will break loose if i got it or she found out i was applying as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kittycat Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 does your daughter want the job as much as you do? Or will she leaves as soon as something better comes along? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
collies r best Posted August 18, 2011 Author Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 T be honest i was surprised she was after the job, she has 2 hamsters which she takes very good care of but the rest of the animals are mine or Jodies [other daughter]and Carla doesnt bother about any of them just refers to them as a nuisances Dont get me wrong she'd never illtreat them she just doesnt bother about them. She is not animal mad like me Shes been in her current job 3years but hates it and desperately wants out of it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phoebejo Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 I know what it's like living with an unforgiving daughter I'd be honest with her and say you'd really love the job and are going to apply too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
griff Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 i agree with phoebejo, i think i would be honest from the start your daughter should be able to accept a bit of competition at least your daughter already has a job and although she might not like where she works it isn't as if she desperately needs the employment. good luck whatever you decide Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy Bear Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 I agree with both. Talk to her about the job and how keen you are and all the reasons why. She might not like it but I am sure she would appreciate your honesty. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackmagic Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 I would also tell her. She doesn't like where she is but there is no guarantee she would like this place any better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazz Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 apply. It will make you happy tell her, but its her problem if she doesnt like it, not yours xxxxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rufus the wonderdog Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 I agree with Alicia - apply if it's the job you'd really like. Talk to your daughter straight away, tell her you're applying and why, and then it's up to her how she deals with it. good luck and let us know how you get on with your application Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacobean Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 Your daughter possibly views it as a retail job rather than the actual type of shop it is. I would tell her that you would love it but if she said she really wanted the job I would back off and leave her to it. If I knew a friend was going for a particular job I liked I wouldn't apply for it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EAD Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 Yeah totally agree, be honest and have a chat with your daughter Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whizzie Posted August 19, 2011 Report Share Posted August 19, 2011 The employer might have a good idea what they are looking for which could match your daughter's profile or yours or possibly neither. They will not necessarily recruit if they don't find the right person. Therefore I would be honest with your daughter and apply. She might not be what they are looking for and in that case would be turned down whether or not you applied & so you'd be missing out without her gaining anything Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
murtle Posted August 19, 2011 Report Share Posted August 19, 2011 Be honest with your daughter, at 20 she needs to understand the implications of her actions (and be a little less selfish). It's a job, it's what you want. If you'd told her first, what would have happened then. I would say something along the lines of that you were going to apply, but didn't mention it when she said as you hadn't realised she was going to apply and needed time to think about what you wanted to do. As you say, these don't come about very often. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazz Posted August 19, 2011 Report Share Posted August 19, 2011 if you had applied and then she saw the job, would she worry about your feelings if she applied? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clare Posted August 19, 2011 Report Share Posted August 19, 2011 I agree with the others, apply and talk to your daughter, its her problem if its an issue. If were going for the same job as my mum I would be delighted if either of us got the job, probably more so for her if I knew it was something she really wanted Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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