rufus the wonderdog Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 More than happy to help - she's far too young to be worrying about these things bless her. The boy's comments must have struck deep. Emily is very lucky to have parents who are taking her worries seriously and doing their very best to help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
collies r best Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 I honestly think Emily is very pretty Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ranirottie Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 Emily is a very pretty girl but young children can say some awful things and not even mean them. It is such a shame that she took it to heart. My youngest daughter was always very tiny and when she went to school at 5 she was in 3 year olds clothes. The kids taunted her but she reacted by fighting, which I was horrified at,but it never left her and she is still feisty and touchy about her height. I do hope Emily can look in a mirror soon and see what a really lovely face she has. x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greytgirl Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 You 100% have my sympathy as I go through it with Katie, who is 8. Its so upsetting to hear and see isnt it? and you feel so helpless when they feel this way. Katie is constantly saying she is fat and wants the doctor to scrub off her freckles, its strange because I too am covered in them and can never remember a time they bothered me? She compares herself to others alot, Katie is not fat but she is a big girl, tall and muscular as I am, and her dad, I try to explain its not fat, and that every body is different..she talks about her big belly etc. This always astounds me because I NEVER discuss dieting or weight issues around her and never have. Her teacher weighed them all a few months back and they all saw each others weight?? without our consent which disgusted me as there are some very small girls in her class and she cannot distinguish the fact she is a stone heavier due to her height, muscle etc and they are of a small build, a child doesnt understand this... I really hope your beautiful daughter, mine too comes out of all of this and it is just a phase, they are far too young to worry about these things aren't they ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
safneo Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 When I was a child I hated myself too and would stand in front of the mirror just saying 'ugly' to myself. I had lots of freckles and hated them and got teased about them, especially when the sun came out. My parents always told me I was beautiful but I never believed them either. I was told that freckles were a sign of beauty but I thought I was the exception to this rule. I know its really had for a young child, especially a girl to get over things like this, and in this day and age where school children are so bothered about their appearance rather than playing like they should be. I think all of your children are beautiful and will gladly tell them so. Is it possible for her to get a nice haircut or something to make her feel better about herself while you are working on her self-esteem? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phoebejo Posted April 30, 2009 Author Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 Haircuts are one of the things that upset her the most! She'd have her fringe and hair all over her face if she could so she can hide. My friend Alison has cut our hair for years so it's not that she's afraid of Alison but she's been in tears the whole time it's being cut sometimes. She'll be grumpy for days afterwards and repeatedly say "I'm ugly" Poor Katie. You're right, it is upsetting to hear them say such horrible things about themselves. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurel n Hardy Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 If only they all believed it Molly has no such self esteem issues though and constantly stares into the mirror saying "I'm pretty" you could get Molly and Emily to stand side by side at the mirror, and have Molly tell Emily she is pretty too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phoebejo Posted April 30, 2009 Author Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 They fight almost constantly So that aint never going to happen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sherlock Bones Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 are you going to disappear this thread in a bit? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spins4me Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 Only too pleased to help. I rarely look in a mirror because of negative comments from my Mum and older brother, so if I can stop Emily being like this it'll be great. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ian Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 Poor Emily, children can be so cruel. I did wonder though, as this boy is still in her class, it seems to have stuck with her are you sure this was only said the once or could he / they be doing it more & she just doesn't want to say? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phoebejo Posted April 30, 2009 Author Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 Thank you She now has a grin like this She says she can't believe all those people liked the photos and she's gone downstairs to tell her sisters I really really hope that now she's seen so many positive comments she'll perhaps be able to put the one nasty one into perspective and if she ever tells me she's ugly again I can remind her of all the nice things she read here. You're all stars Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ReikiAnge Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 Awww, that's fantastic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
houndzrus Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 Thank you She now has a grin like this She deserves it, she is very pretty Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
safneo Posted April 30, 2009 Report Share Posted April 30, 2009 Haircuts are one of the things that upset her the most! She'd have her fringe and hair all over her face if she could so she can hide. My friend Alison has cut our hair for years so it's not that she's afraid of Alison but she's been in tears the whole time it's being cut sometimes. She'll be grumpy for days afterwards and repeatedly say "I'm ugly" Poor Katie. You're right, it is upsetting to hear them say such horrible things about themselves. What about just curling it? Maybe overnight into ringlets or something? Glad she has cheered up anyway. Maybe you could print the thread of and pin it next to the mirror. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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