greyhound pal Posted July 31, 2008 Report Share Posted July 31, 2008 This is a sensitive subject so apologies to anyone who feels I'm being incredibly insensitive Following on from the abortion thread, do you think, other than as a result of rape or young teen pregnancy, that voluntarily giving up a baby for adoption these days is ever the 'right' thing to do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happylittlegreensquirrel Posted July 31, 2008 Report Share Posted July 31, 2008 yes however I do think there is still a stigma attached to adoption Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greyhound pal Posted July 31, 2008 Author Report Share Posted July 31, 2008 Do you mean having your baby adopted or being an adult who was adopted as a child Sam? Am a bit split over this one and don't quite know what to think, hence the thread! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathyw Posted July 31, 2008 Report Share Posted July 31, 2008 Yes I do if the person genuinely feels that the baby would have a chancce of a better life that the person feels she can give the baby. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ReikiAnge Posted July 31, 2008 Report Share Posted July 31, 2008 Yes I do if the person genuinely feels that the baby would have a chancce of a better life that the person feels she can give the baby. That would sum up my feelings well too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greyhound pal Posted July 31, 2008 Author Report Share Posted July 31, 2008 Okay. Can I throw something else in? What if a woman did it on more than one or two occasions. Almost like a form of contraception in a way. Does that change your thoughts? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Red Rotties Posted July 31, 2008 Report Share Posted July 31, 2008 choosing adoption is never easy and it takes time to put into place. I think its a very brave lady who can carry a baby for 9 months and then let the baby go. I would have hated to ever be in that position, I dont know whether I would have been strong enough to do it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happylittlegreensquirrel Posted July 31, 2008 Report Share Posted July 31, 2008 Do you mean having your baby adopted or being an adult who was adopted as a child Sam? both but mainly for the woman having her child adopted Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greyhound pal Posted July 31, 2008 Author Report Share Posted July 31, 2008 (edited) Totally Sam. I think a lot of people think this is something that happened in the past - shame of unmarried mums and pressure from her parents so to to bring shame on the family. But its not as uncommon these days as you would think. I agree that its such a brave decision and I doubt I'd be selfless enough to do it. Edited July 31, 2008 by greyhound pal Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Red Rotties Posted July 31, 2008 Report Share Posted July 31, 2008 Okay. Can I throw something else in? What if a woman did it on more than one or two occasions. Almost like a form of contraception in a way. Does that change your thoughts? Then you could look at her as a surragate, there are so many childless couples that are desperate for a child to love and bring up as their own but there is a shortage af babies thankfully as the stigma of being a unmarried mum isnt what it was Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greyhound pal Posted July 31, 2008 Author Report Share Posted July 31, 2008 But isn't a surrogate someone who plans ahead instead of someone who falls pregnant by one night stand and hands the baby over to social services at birth so that an unknown couple can adopt? But I think I'm looking at it a different way now you've said that - thanks! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Red Rotties Posted July 31, 2008 Report Share Posted July 31, 2008 Usually it is. Nothing can be compared to the joy on a couples face that have gone through years of trying for a child when they are finally handed "their" child, a child is such a gift and even more precious to someone who never thought their dream would ever come true Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparkle Posted August 1, 2008 Report Share Posted August 1, 2008 choosing adoption is never easy and it takes time to put into place. I think its a very brave lady who can carry a baby for 9 months and then let the baby go. I would have hated to ever be in that position, I dont know whether I would have been strong enough to do it This is what I like to try and think about my birth mum, I will always be thankful that she chose to give me a chance of life and was selfless enough to give me up, I have fantastic parents and love them to pieces, I think my brother feels the same way too If I had been 17 and pregnant I would have been terrified and definitely not grown up enough to look after another human being so I think it is a brave choice to make Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
K9Fran Posted August 1, 2008 Report Share Posted August 1, 2008 Many of you know I was adopted as a baby, but it has left me with so much 'baggage' that I don't believe I would have had to deal with if I had been raised by my birth family, so for me, adoption is never the right thing, unless the birth mother maintains contact. For me, abortion is better than being allowed to come into this world just to satisfy a couple who can't come to terms with not being able to have what they want. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ReikiAnge Posted August 1, 2008 Report Share Posted August 1, 2008 Many of you know I was adopted as a baby, but it has left me with so much 'baggage' that I don't believe I would have had to deal with if I had been raised by my birth family, so for me, adoption is never the right thing, unless the birth mother maintains contact. For me, abortion is better than being allowed to come into this world just to satisfy a couple who can't come to terms with not being able to have what they want. I'm really sorry to hear you have had such a bad experience (sorry that's not worded very well ) and I am sure you are not alone. However, I am sure there are people who have had much better lives from being adopted than they would have had if they had remained in the birth family. Also there are plenty of people left with "baggage" who were raised by their birth families. Being raised by your birth family doesn't guarantee a happy childhood/rest of life, or lack of baggage, sadly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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