ranirottie Posted April 8, 2008 Author Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 oh I am glad that I started this thread, its nice to hear abiut happy relationships. Sorry about the bad ones. Chris is my 3rd hubby and we have been together for 32 years and for the most of it we have been happy, more so in the last 10 years. He is my best mate and I love him dearly (even tho sometimes I could kill him) and luckily he feels the same. x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kats n greys Posted April 8, 2008 Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 Together for nearly 20yrs. married for 3yrs. Happy- very Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pboae Posted April 8, 2008 Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 Very much so, and it'll be 12 years this year. *But* thinking back to the times when we weren't happy, the problems weren't really our marriage, it was other things, money, or being miserable at work/college, or just being generally disatisfied with life at the time. I think that sometimes because we do tend to be pretty wrapped up with each other that's the first place we look for a reason. I can't explain that very well, but when everything's great and I am really happy, I tend to give OH the credit for making me happy. Even if really he's only partly responsible for it. But the flip side of that is that he tends to get the blame when I'm not happy, even if it's not really his fault. So I wonder sometimes when I hear stats like this if it's really their relationship that is making them miserable, or if that's mainly a symptom of some other stress or sadness in their lives. Obviously it will be the relationship for some (most?) people, but 65% seems a huge number. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maria Posted April 8, 2008 Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 Very happily married (for the 2nd time) for the last 15 and a bit years. Been together for nearly 18 years. My soulmate Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathyw Posted April 8, 2008 Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 Very much so, and it'll be 12 years this year. *But* thinking back to the times when we weren't happy, the problems weren't really our marriage, it was other things, money, or being miserable at work/college, or just being generally disatisfied with life at the time. I think that sometimes because we do tend to be pretty wrapped up with each other that's the first place we look for a reason. I can't explain that very well, but when everything's great and I am really happy, I tend to give OH the credit for making me happy. Even if really he's only partly responsible for it. But the flip side of that is that he tends to get the blame when I'm not happy, even if it's not really his fault. So I wonder sometimes when I hear stats like this if it's really their relationship that is making them miserable, or if that's mainly a symptom of some other stress or sadness in their lives. Obviously it will be the relationship for some (most?) people, but 65% seems a huge number. I think this is very true. Outside stresses must affect a couople if they are close - the trick is to ride them out. Oh was always there for me and I for him. No one expected me to stay married for very long, indeed many thought I would leave him at the alter (no way) because I was too flighty but it never entered my head to bolt because we always sorted things out. We talked about whatever it was until it was sorted. Those were the days - they truly were. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackmagic Posted April 8, 2008 Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 We met when I was sixteen and married when I was twenty one. Have been married for forty years and still very much in love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spins4me Posted April 8, 2008 Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 I would say that first the first 17 years I was very, very happy but the last three (due to illness) have been a rollercoaster of 'normal' times and deperately unhappy, fearful times.I would like to be able to say that the normal times make up for the bad times but they fall far far short. I love the normal oh deeply but the bad one is a stranger I despise. I would love to have a few hours a day to myself - alone in the house - that would be bliss for me. That must be soo hard so just want to send a Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clare1976 Posted April 8, 2008 Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 Been very happy with my OH for nearly five years and married for one year, although at certain times of the month I would like to hit him over the head with a shovel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ranirottie Posted April 8, 2008 Author Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 Been very happy with my OH for nearly five years and married for one year, although at certain times of the month I would like to hit him over the head with a shovel x Big for you Kathy, I am sure that Ray is ill x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kiri_tc Posted April 8, 2008 Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 very happily married 95% of the time been together nearly 7 years (i think ) married since sept 06 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angel155 Posted April 8, 2008 Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 Have been happily married for nearly 17 years Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lainey Posted April 8, 2008 Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 Happy for me too! 20 yrs together, married for 14 yrs definately have moments were i could stove his head in with something very heavy though Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ReikiAnge Posted April 8, 2008 Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 We have a very happy marriage Together almost 14 years, married for just over nine. We've had our arguments along the way, but who hasn't? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathyw Posted April 8, 2008 Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 x Big for you Kathy, I am sure that Ray is ill x Oh it is the reason Cher but in the middle of the night behind my bolted bedroom door because he is angry with me - I don't think 'ill' I just think 'get me through the night safely' and listen for his bedroom door to close. I think a happy marriage is a wonderful thing and although now I sometimes question why I married at all, in reality I wouldn't have missed the wonderful years before it all went sour. I have loved and I have been loved. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nettie Posted April 8, 2008 Report Share Posted April 8, 2008 Married happily for 10 years this year Together 12 years. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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