K9Fran Posted October 13, 2009 Report Share Posted October 13, 2009 #3 son is now 12 and at Snr School - he was late home today, by 2 hours (which is not like him, he's normally straight home to get on his computer). He walked in, in tears, because a note had been passed round class saying 'I love you' and signed with his name. When the teacher spotted it, the girl who had it at the time decided to read it to the whole class - who all laughed Poor lad has taken it all to heart, and is really struggling to deal with the teasing, name calling, tripping up, kit pinching level of bullying which is going on. He's been internally excluded two or three times for retailiating to different children and hurting them. Last week he was internally excluded for one day, followed by an external exclusion on Friday. I can see him going through school (and life) just like I did, struggling to cope with this sort of behaviour, but I don't know what to do to help him (I'm only just learning to deal with it, but I work in a very small office and don't tend to socialise in other places). Help! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mop Posted October 13, 2009 Report Share Posted October 13, 2009 I took my children away from a school were they were being bullied and put them in another. The Council tried to stop us, 2 other families wanted to do this at the same time for the same reason but refused to keep our children there. We threatened to home school them if they didn't let us change schools. It is terrible to see your children being bullied, one of my sons when he was 9 years old, hubby heard him say to his brothers, "I sometimes wonder if life is worth living". He never went back to that school. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackmagic Posted October 13, 2009 Report Share Posted October 13, 2009 That is so sad The school should have an anti bullying procedures in place You may find some help here http://www.teachernet.gov.uk/wholeschool/behaviour/tacklingbullying/ http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/Yourchildshealthandsafety/WorriedAbout/DG_10015786 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura_E Posted October 13, 2009 Report Share Posted October 13, 2009 Really sorry to hear this, it must be very difficult as a parent to see your son going through this. I am a Connexions Personal Adviser and work with vulnerable young people in the community, but we also run a service in schools. There should be one based in your sons school who can help, even if it means helping you look for alternative provision for him. The Personal Adviser can also advocate on behalf of you and your son if you feel like the school aren't helping. If your son suffers from low self-esteem then they can also help to address this and broker other services, like counselling, education welfare etc. You might also find the Education Welfare Service can help, particularly if you do decide to move your son schools, although I imagine this would be a last resort for you. If you need any more specific info feel free to PM me, I am happy to look into what services are available for young people in your area. Half of the problem is when people don't know what support they are entitled to, but you shouldn't have to go through this on your own. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
K9Fran Posted October 13, 2009 Author Report Share Posted October 13, 2009 Thanks folks, I'd love to home educate him to be honest, he's bright and loves to learn. But finances won't allow for me to not be working these days The school do have an anti bullying policy, but as soon as one of the little 'dears' gets punished, another steps up to the plate. He's damaging his clothes where he sucks on his t-shirts for comfort. We've worked with him as a family to help him stop some of the other unsocial behaviours, but I can see things going backwards if this keeps up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparkle Posted October 14, 2009 Report Share Posted October 14, 2009 Poor lad :GroupHug: No idea if it will be helpful or not but on BBC2 Wales at 1930 this evening there is a programme on bullying done by Aled from the Chris Moyles show (heard about it on the way in this morning) if you have sky I think it was channel 991 they said ... either way I hope things improve for him soon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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