Sherlock Bones Posted October 3, 2008 Report Share Posted October 3, 2008 This one is more mysterious than most I think everyone who has met him thinks he & I were good for each other, but he's got a bit of history and finds it hard to discuss issues that have affected and upset him in the distant past. I hoped I could break through the shell when I met him but I mostly failed Claz I had a long distance one just like that. After 10 years of on and off I finally called it off last year for the last time (theoretically, i'm a bit crap at that...) and it was only after 4 silent months had gone by that he wrote to me at Xmas last year and told me what his problem was (incidentally it was that I didn't live closer and he was scared of falling head over heels when I wasn't there... twit. 10 years I ask ya). He also proceeded to ask me (3 times) to marry him (theory being I wouldn't be here, I'd be there, I think) and then tell me every relationship he'd had in our in between years had broken up over me (even though during most of those times we weren't talking and he certainly never told me!!). Distance does funny things to peeps in relationships and if he is similar in a) clamming up about feelings and b) worrying about things that he can't control then he'll probably do and say all kind of similar wierd things to avoid confronting the issues. Sad thing is that I think if I'd known about those issues he and I had 10 years ago I probably would be there and married to him but now I'm not and won't ever will be Anyway, what I'm trying to say in a very roundabout way is that you need to get him to talk even if he doesn't want to... or you'll be like me and wondering 10 years later wtf planet you both live on :laugh: (dammit no more diamonds for me). RMF: when you put the grill on to grill bacon it's important to turn the heat button on too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathyw Posted October 3, 2008 Report Share Posted October 3, 2008 Well Done Nettie. Claz I hope you can sort this out but also hoping that this weekend finds Matt missing you and you revelling in being free, don't shut your eyes this weekend - try and enjoy it. Abby - send positive thoughts for your sister and a for both of you. The colour is horrible and I will be waking up thinking the sun is shining and I need sunglasses when in fact it is p*ssing down and freezing cold. Big mistake. I am going to do a bit more then have a nap as I am very tired. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sherlock Bones Posted October 3, 2008 Report Share Posted October 3, 2008 Oooh Kathy - I was thinking about you the other day when I read an article on Admiral Nurses - re Daisy - I'm not sure if you already know of them or use them but if not, (and because she's in care, i'm not sure if they can help you other than for support, which i'm not sure you need (lots of not sure's here )) but I figured your experiences could well help someone else? Have a quick google for them, they have a bit of a basic website but might be interesting? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClazUK Posted October 3, 2008 Report Share Posted October 3, 2008 Thanks guys - I'm tempted to print this off and shove it in front of him next Friday Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simikins Posted October 3, 2008 Report Share Posted October 3, 2008 Amy Abbys sister Kathy [for the paint] Ms Oook, wise words from the house of Sim, go out get pissed and pull gal I am very pleased today i left all 3 dogs alone for 5 hours, came back to a normal house, no chewing or trashing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merledogs Posted October 3, 2008 Report Share Posted October 3, 2008 I have been out and am back again. I should in theory be doing some cleaning, making my bed up cos I stripped it this morning and writing some essays. I also need to make some dog food, but it will all have to wait cos I'm having a cuppa and a nap JulesB - hope you get your boiler sorted soon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kats inc Posted October 3, 2008 Report Share Posted October 3, 2008 Hello I am back after a truly fantastic holiday I have no clue what's happened so to anyone in need. PS Kelly guess what I have in my posession A drumstick from a certain drummer and a set list from a certain rock god Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacobean Posted October 3, 2008 Report Share Posted October 3, 2008 (edited) Andrea - It's the nurses who set up the transfusion and monitor the progress. The doctor's give the say so when the transfusion is needed. If they've made the decision and this is going to go ahead it should already have started. It's been several days now. They need to pull their fingers out. I'm sure the specialist can walk to the ward Janet happens to be in. You would think the nurses could phone thro to the docs in the renal unit with the progress. I hope they move her over to the Renal unit quickly. She must feel ghastly. Edited October 3, 2008 by Jacobean Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathyw Posted October 3, 2008 Report Share Posted October 3, 2008 (edited) Hello Las Vegas person, hope you had a wonderful time and left LV wanting more of your company. Thanks SB I shall go googling. Thanks Simikins - I have been creative (not my strong point) I have mixed some of the pale lemon we have in the kitchen plus some of the white basecoat and I now have the colour I want. The bedroom is in such a mess but order will be restored sometime next week. Well Done to Alex's famous five for being good. Reminded me that the other day we left Elsa and CB when we went to see Mum. As I was going out of the door CB went and sat in the corner near the back door and he looked very scared - never did that before although he doesn't like being left unless he is in Ray's bedroom. I went out and came back (cos I forgot something) and he went and sat in the same corner again. He seems to only feel secure when he is oin Ray's bedroom - strange doglet our CB. I have to go back to my painting as I only have a short while before we will be taking doglets out and I want the paint smell gone before Elsa goes to bed. Edited October 3, 2008 by Kathyw Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nettie Posted October 3, 2008 Report Share Posted October 3, 2008 (edited) Andrea - It's the nurses who set up the transfusion and monitor the progress. The doctor's give the say so when the transfusion is needed.If they've made the decision and this is going to go ahead it should already have started. It's been several days now. They need to pull their fingers out. I'm sure the specialist can walk to the ward Janet happens to be in. You would think the nurses could phone thro to the docs in the renal unit with the progress. I hope they move her over to the Renal unit quickly. She must feel ghastly. I'm thinking that they don't want to give her a blood transfusion until she is in the renal unit and hooked up to dialisis in an attempt to get her kidneys working with 'new' blood, of course, I could be talking nonsense but you would have thought they woud have got her into the renal unit by now. Andrea, hope your sil gets her treatment pdq and starts to feel better. Edited October 3, 2008 by Nettie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacobean Posted October 3, 2008 Report Share Posted October 3, 2008 (edited) Abby - Has your sister got anyone with her or close by? Is she able to go and stay with you for a few days? Amy - You don't need to be brave. Just let it all out when you need to. It's very painful right now but it will get better. We're all here for you and know how you feel. Ah yes Nettie maybe so. Edited October 3, 2008 by Jacobean Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helly Posted October 3, 2008 Report Share Posted October 3, 2008 Im wandering aimlessly round kids toys sites on t'internet looking for something for my god-daughter who is 1 next week. I suspect my abilities are about as limited as you can get can anyone with kids tell me is iggle piggle still in or is there someting new around now? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lil_angel Posted October 3, 2008 Report Share Posted October 3, 2008 (edited) I have been to town for some retail therapy. I have realised that I can fit into kiddies shoes in H&M. This has resulted in my buying 2 pairs of ballet pumps and ugg type boots for just £20 Im wandering aimlessly round kids toys sites on t'internet looking for something for my god-daughter who is 1 next week. I suspect my abilities are about as limited as you can get can anyone with kids tell me is iggle piggle still in or is there someting new around now? Di I went to my cousin's little girls party a couple of weeks ago. Shes just turned 1 but shes far more active than I thought she would be. I think Iggle Piggle is still in. Edited October 3, 2008 by lil_angel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phoenyx Posted October 3, 2008 Report Share Posted October 3, 2008 I think I'm still hungover from last night and there's a bunch of helium ballons lurking at the top of the stairs ceiling that I can't remember bringing home.... ........they'll have to stay there till they stop floating though cos I'm not getting the ladders out to get to them! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phoenyx Posted October 3, 2008 Report Share Posted October 3, 2008 Please excuse me while I have a rant. I am about to seriously lose my temper with Worcester Bosch about my non-working boiler. I have just been charged £185 for a child engineer to visit (without the promised advance warning phone call to save me being on standby from 8am to 5pm) who couldn't find anything wrong, fiddled with the controls a bit and left. The boiler has now been running full on since he left, it won't switch off, it's making a horrible noise and the radiators won't turn off either, all of which are the things I told him were happening and which was why I called them out in the first place. This was after my local company visited twice (I waved goodbye to another £45 for that) but said I would need a 'specialist' Worcester engineer. I could turn it off at the fuse point but he told me not to do that as it was making the 'invisible' problem worse. According to the help desk (I've called them three times now and nobody ever returns my calls) his mobile has a fault but his boss is trying to contact him. By telepathy, presumably. I don't know which is going to blow first, the top of my head or the boiler. Rant over. And breathe That still not fixed? Give them hell Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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