~Canis-Equus~ Posted June 1, 2007 Report Share Posted June 1, 2007 (edited) Not havin a dig (honest im on that many painkillers i couldnt figure out how i fi tried....).... but why is there often teh assumption that 'more than one at a time' == 'cheating'...? As far as i can see theres a few types of relationships.... 1/ exclusive, married/life partner, no sharing/swinging/wotever, monogamy expected. 2/ married/life partner sharing/swinging/polyamory accepted within certain personal and mutually acceptable rules. 3/ serious boyfriend/girlfriend but not yet life partner stage, monogamy expected 4/ ditto, polyamory .... And then there are casual relationships where neither person has committed themselves soley to the other person, in which case as long as no one intentionally decieves the other, there may or may not be other partners. I am currently in type 2. Cheating is not and will not ever be acceptable regardless of the fact we may choose to sleep with other people, it still has to be honest and open and fall within our 'rules' (no there arent pages and pages of them, theres no handbook or owt lol). Cheating is cheating, decieving people is wrong, intentionally doing something you know will hurt a person you care about is wrong. (although if im the 'other woman' call me hypocritical or wotever, its not my problem and i can safely say i do feel thats the same when the boot is on the other foot!, ie when my OH has strayed, its not the other lass's issue..... its between me and him). Im still on far too many painkillers to be typing..... *Wobbles off into the night* Edited June 1, 2007 by ~Canis-Equus~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimthecat Posted June 4, 2007 Report Share Posted June 4, 2007 I was brought up in an age where you were supposed to be at least engaged before you had sex . I was 16 when I had my first serious relationship and way too young and felt very guilty about having sex even though I was madly in love. The next time I had a serious relaitionship I was 21 and older and wiser and enjoyed it . I'm 51 and only had 3 previous long term relationships. I met someone a few months ago and it look like it is going to be serious soon. I just want to make sure before I get involved. I think sex can be bonding and it can cement a relationship. I dont think I could have a long term sexual relationship with no emotions involved. As has ready been said, each to her or his own , as long as no one gets hurt Alison Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiccaweys Posted June 4, 2007 Report Share Posted June 4, 2007 One for every year of your life, that's what I say Blimey, is that all?? That makes me about 310!! :biglaugh: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yena Posted June 4, 2007 Author Report Share Posted June 4, 2007 That makes me only 1, but, I'm well developed for my age Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brunzara Posted June 4, 2007 Report Share Posted June 4, 2007 I've been stuck with the same one for the last 9 years but it's ok coz I over compensated earlier on in life Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimthecat Posted June 4, 2007 Report Share Posted June 4, 2007 Redditchlady, The bit you blacked out, not heard of that , ahem, are we talking about the Rabbit? Alison Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laura g Posted June 4, 2007 Report Share Posted June 4, 2007 my mum saw this thread open on my screen and told me to tell you all that the only bloke who crawls over her body these days is Arthur Itis !!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redditchlady Posted June 4, 2007 Report Share Posted June 4, 2007 Redditchlady, The bit you blacked out, not heard of that , ahem, are we talking about the Rabbit? Alison Yes. Kazz xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babsc71 Posted June 4, 2007 Report Share Posted June 4, 2007 Redditchlady, The bit you blacked out, not heard of that , ahem, are we talking about the Rabbit? Alison Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owl Posted June 4, 2007 Report Share Posted June 4, 2007 If it's one for every year of my life, I have a problem. I've lost count, as some people are best forgotten and probably they feel the same way about me. With same person for 25 years but like Brunzara, I over-compensated earlier on. Probably because I hadn't got anything better to do at the time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimthecat Posted June 4, 2007 Report Share Posted June 4, 2007 Yes. Kazz xx I guess that's safer than sitting on the washing machine at full spin. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redditchlady Posted June 4, 2007 Report Share Posted June 4, 2007 I guess that's safer than sitting on the washing machine at full spin. My washing machine bounces too much for that. Tactful as always me. Kazz xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
riley Posted June 6, 2007 Report Share Posted June 6, 2007 Personally, I wish I'd waited - my reasons why are too detailed for a public forum but in my honest opinion, so long as you don't hurt anyone else, your only judge is yourself Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimthecat Posted June 8, 2007 Report Share Posted June 8, 2007 (edited) oh go, on tell us! Alison Edited June 8, 2007 by kimthecat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abigailj Posted June 8, 2007 Report Share Posted June 8, 2007 I agree that people should do as they please as long as everyone is consenting and noone is being deceived. Personally I'd struggle to rack up any kind of list since there are very few people I actually fancy enough to sleep with them. Going home with someone I barely know isn't something I can really comprehend either. I've never done that and I can't say I'm into the idea at all - it's just not for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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