Elaine, i am glad you are feelign better. i think i have missed what has actually been going on for you. from the little i have picked up it sounds like our mothers were separated at birth. if phone calls get to you then a trick my therapist taught me was to imagine bouncing a tennis ball on yoru head. ignore what is being said as it really isnt important.
you do sound like a nice human being.
remember tho you are not alone as it sounds like you have people on here who care about you. also be assured that you can get to a place where you can deal with yoru family. i have.... just