K9Fran

I got the dog Guard last time it was on offer. It's very good as it has two hooked bars which go over the back of the back seat and stop the dog pull it out of place. Also has two upright bars so you can also use it directly behind the front seats (I haven't used it like this)

I'd be worried if I did that he would only become more alienated.

A lot of what you say rings true - I didn't work for many years after we first met and started living together, when I did start it was small time and I was self employed, but eventually that wasn't enough, I just couldn't make enough money to help maintain our lifestyle and had to go full time, which meant not being available to him as being self employed had allowed. Then I found this job, which I love, but then Golden Boy started, and I found I was being encouraged by the OH to concentrate on his bad points, and he even encouraged me to hand in my notice several times, hated me bringing work problems home (he rarely talks about work because he works for the Foreign Office). Even now, we've just had the shopping delivered, and he's talking about locking away the peanut butter for himself, even though I'd ordered it for the family........ ARRRGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi peeps, Thanks for all the thoughts and advice. I'm still here, just been out for lunch with OH and some 'duck therapy' at Willen Lakes (those who know Milton Keynes will know where I mean). Feeling tons better today. I got an email yesterday from my boss which was quite chatty and pleasant. He's OK with OH coming with me (although we realise this is a concession). Problem is, as I'm going up, OH is coming down

Thanks for the support peeps. you lot really are great. If anyone watches Eastenders, my OH reminds me a lot of Phil at the moment, he even threw a wobbler at the tea table tonight because the kids had cooked (with my permission) a bag of sausage rolls which had been in the freezer, left over from Christmas. He said he needed to know what food was being eaten - why I don't know, I'm the one who maintains the menu and does the shopping...... I'm using this as a sound off place because I don't make friends very easily, especially when I'm down.

Thanks Ruthi, I'm due to have my second meeting with a counsellor tomorrow, last week threw up a recurring thread of 'controlling men' in my life....... Dr has changed my tablets (Zoloft) and wants me to go back to work on Tuesday....

The Unions won't take you on until you've been a member for three months. CAB phone lines were engaged No friends in the area Was looking forward to having my oldest son's 'outlaws' coming over, but OH has said he's not in the mood for socialising (last time that happened I lost contact with the only friend I have in this area)

Things went from bad to worse over the weekend. OH seems to be feeling the pressure and is pushing me to go back to work (despite it being his idea in the first place to get signed off). I've also had confirmation that my birth mother doesn't want any contact from me. I've gone from feeling 7/10 on Friday afternoon to 2/10. Work now want to know if I will be attending my performance review meeting on Tuesday 2nd June (that is not my mistake - that is the date they have given) I can't see that I will be mentally in a position to respond, but OH thinks I ought to, 'get back on the horse' the way I'm feeling at the moment I'll just end up having the screaming hab dabs and walking out I am hoping to make an appointment with the Dr this afternoon to change my medication, have just asked OH if he will come in to the Dr with me and he's refused, says he just wants to walk away from the whole thing

I can never be far from anti histamines myself in the summer as I react badly to all sorts of insect bites.

Update - it's pay day on the 24th (to cover the period from 1st May - 31st May) - I've been informed of the amount I will be paid this month, which appears to have an amount deducted of approximately 1 weeks pay. Our Sick pay allowance is 5 days per year, of which I've taken one so far (1st Jan - 31st Dec) so that's pretty much as I'd expected. Now - we have 28 days holiday a year, including 6 days BH although my contract doesn't say that, it's taken as read that we don't work BH. Am I right in saying that if I have only been paid SSP for the 31st May, then I am due another days holiday later in the year?

Back in March, after several months of symptoms (tearfulness, paranoia, short temper, confusion etc.) I went to my Dr who diagnosed a return of my clinical depression and prescribed Fluoxetine (Prozac) 20mg once a day (I had a previous bout in Spring last year, about 6 months into this job, and a further one the previous Spring in a previous job). I've been employed here since August 2008. I struggled to continue to work, as we are a small company and I am the only administrator - I deal with all accounting & banking, all post sales queries, credit control, general admin as well as PA type tasks (errand running etc.), when I started it was just me and the boss, then a third member of staff was brought in to expand one side of the business - this meant an increase in my work load, but my 6 hours a day was not extended. I started working 09.30 - 16.00 (30 min break for lunch) as it suited the work pattern of the company better, even though my contract was never changed from 09.00 - 15.30 with 30 mins for lunch. After my diagnosis this time, I asked for some modifications to be made at work - more support/ allowances be made to enable me to continue to work. I requested that allowances be made for it taking longer to do things correctly, more training on Accounts practises (I'd been asking for training/support on this side of things for the past year, since last years episode of depression but it hadn't been forthcoming), help with prioritisation as I have to deal with requests from both the company Director and a Manager so need to know which tasks take priority. I was being excluded from decision making - this was to be solved by having weekly team meetings. None of this has been happening. Last Tuesday (11th) I had a meeting with my boss (the company director) where I was able to tell him I was feeling better, but how I am feeling still fluctuates, and I would keep him informed when things are particularly bad. He admitted that he hasn't been helping me with prioritisation as much as he should have, and asked me to send him a daily list of 'to Do' things which he would asses first thing and advise me of the priority of each item. My first list to him had 22 items, my second one more still..... He didn't respond to either in a timely manner, indeed I only got a response to Friday's list in my emails when I got in on Monday morning, and when I started to act on that list of priorities I was told I was wrong, that had been Friday's list. He also told me that he had been made aware of some errors in my work (one of my jobs is to raise booking forms on request - this used to be done by the Director and Manager depending on who made the sale) and I'd sent one back to the Manager with an incorrect date in .pdf format as per his instructions, even though I had suggested that saving both a .doc and a .pdf format file would make any necessary changes easier) - I explained that I'm under a lot of pressure, especially towards the end of my working day, as for personal reasons I have had to leave on time recently to collect my son from school - the request for this invoice and booking form had come in 10 mins before I was due to leave for the day. Both members of staff are aware of my need to leave on time and are reminded during the day. He did acknowledge that the error rate on the invoices I am asked to raise was now zero, and agreed to minute that fact, but when I received a copy of those minutes, it was missing. I was also noted that he no longer has any issues with my timekeeping. On Monday I was handed a letter as I left work, telling me the company was 'considering instituting a performance review action against you' . It then listed areas where the company considers I am failing to perform to the required standards - prioritisation of workload, errors (it details some of these errors, one of which wasn't actually my error as I was only following normal procedure for paying bills, the supplier had supplied us with the wrong account details when setting up his account). Not doing things I had been told weren't a priority. Not producing reports which I had been told were a lower priority than another task, when I hadn't had time to complete the higher priority task. This meeting will be Chaired by the Director and minutes taken by the Company Sec (his wife). I am advised I am allowed to take either a) a work colleague (choice of one as we are a small company, and he would be the last person I would want supporting me) or b) a Union official (I am not a member of a Union) Needless to say, this has totally pulled the rug from under my feet. I saw the Dr on Tuesday morning and he's signed me off for 2 weeks. My boss has been advised that I won't be available for the planned meeting, and in the mean time all communication is to be directed through my partner who is acting as my 'gatekeeper'. I anyone chooses to read my past threads on this subject, they will appear to be what they are - the rantings of a mad woman....... I really do love my job, I am perfectly capable of doing it, as my 12 1/2% wage rise after my probationary period shows. The only thing that's stopping me from doing it is this illness and I don't believe my employer is supporting me in any way. Does anyone have any advice (if you've made it this far, give yourself a pat on the back!)

White people used to treat Black People the same way, but a small section of society kept 'banging on' about it not being right, and eventually the majority of people realised it was wrong - we can only keep 'banging on' about animals...

goD speed across the Rainbow bridge,leaving many behind you loved you and will hold their memories very closely to comfort them.

Lidls are having some Croc a likes from Tues 3rd - Kids sizes £2.99 and mens and ladies £3.99. I bought some last year and they are great.

Our old Lab (now over the bridge) came up like this after we'd put a new flea collar on her..........

If it's any use, I bought K9FEW from the DVLA a few years ago, it was around £250 then, and looking at the DVLA website, that's not changed a lot. the key being the popularity of the letters as initials - F isn't a popular one, and I'd suspect K isn't either.

http://www.lidl.co.uk/cps/rde/xchg/SID-86FE688C-28F2B474/lidl_uk/hs.xsl/index_9040.htm On offer in my (Bletchley) Lidls from Thursday - £9.99 green, mens sizes 7 - 11

http://www.wellywarehouse.co.uk/hunter-m-8.html Short mens hunter Wellies on offer at £19.99

Joan JET and I love Rock and Roll http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u6Jjm1jzIig

If only...........

Ian Dunbar could tickle my tummy anyday........

I daren't watch it, because my OG won't wear a seatbelt -he can't find which will fit him, even though he's lost a lot of weight, and he won't use a seat belt extender

I don't have much spare time, but Farmville and Petville are my secret pleasures.

Have you tried 300 pecks? http://www.clickertraining.com/node/1057 IT's a very simple method for building duration into things like 'sit and stay' or walking on a loose lead. Also - try changing the command - if sit means pop your bum on the floor and jump up for treat, teach her 'bum down' as if training sit again, but only ever reward her when her bum is on the ground.