Jacobean Posted October 27, 2009 Report Share Posted October 27, 2009 Good grief she is the one bullying and harrassing isn't she. Keep that email as it's proof. HR need to deal with this and get it resolved. Any conversations that you both have from now on HR should be present at anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gremlin22 Posted October 27, 2009 Report Share Posted October 27, 2009 Think i'd be contacting police or something to make them aware of the situation in case she turns up at your house, as well as making HR and as many people as possible at work aware.Do you live with someone? If she comes round do not answer the door, she can just make anything up once you open the door. If at all possible get some cctv equipment to record your doorstep/garden area (but not public street as then you get in bother). I think you have to display a sign in the window to say you have cctv in order for it to be allowed as evidence or something like that. be careful. Don't reply to any of her mails, if you do reply, do it via HR, get them to write it and send it on your behalf. good luck, hope you can get everything sorted,at least Hr and things will be seeing her true colours now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah_H Posted October 28, 2009 Author Report Share Posted October 28, 2009 She has told HR that they can not tell her to not contact me. Despite me writing to them asking them to tell her to stop otherwise I'd call the police. So despite that she has sent me another email today! I am now waiting on Head of HR to call me this afternoon, but have also logged it with the police. I'm trying to get over a kidney infection and have been put on anti-depressents because of her behaviour yet feel like its still me i nthe wrong Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merledogs Posted October 28, 2009 Report Share Posted October 28, 2009 Do you have access to legal advice Sarah? We get a helpline through work for such stuff, but also sometimes you get it with your home insurance. Alternatively ACAS should be able to help, cos it sounds like you need some good advice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jacobean Posted October 28, 2009 Report Share Posted October 28, 2009 Definitely seek external advice then you will know just what the company could and should be doing and what you can do about this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ian Posted October 28, 2009 Report Share Posted October 28, 2009 I'm sorry to read of your situation Sarah. I'd agree with Owl & Jacobean - only speak to her in the presence of someone from HR (or other suitable witness). Is it possible to have her email address blocked via spam filters etc? As to therapy, I don't think you're going mad - it sounds like you have been through a lot in life. You might like to have a look at the UKCP site (umbrella body) for info. on therapists etc. Although not CBT I have studied some counselling in the past, read various books on different forms etc (inc. CBT) Personally I think CBT is too analytical for my tastes. A more humanistic / person centred counsellor, gestalt therapist etc might appeal to you more right now I think. I wondered whether your company may even pay for it if insurance doesn't as your work appears to have sparked the need? Best of luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ian Posted October 28, 2009 Report Share Posted October 28, 2009 By the way Michelle, do you ever read your PM's or have we fallen out? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ReikiAnge Posted October 28, 2009 Report Share Posted October 28, 2009 No advice to add Sarah, but very sorry you are going through this :GroupHug: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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