wendywoo1972

Kathy I missed to see this until now so couldnt send good thoughts but am hoping that whatever it is went how you wanted and all is well

I have a pair. They are the ugliest things I agree but I just couldnt be without them now

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Hello Kathy

Hello, After a rather hectic move, Lydia being ill and problems with sky and talk talk which has led to us having no proper internet connection at home for about 3 months now so you have all probably forgotten who I am for how little I make it onto the internet right now I thought whilst I have a few moments I would come and post some of Lydias latest pictures. She had a wobbly time after our move, having a reaction to her MMRS then falling off of her trike and cutting her eyelid open quite badly needing a trip to hospital then a chest infection and a nasty bug that left her ill for about a week. Frodo however loves his new house, with a nice garden to play in a spare bedroom with a bed that he has claimed as his room and lots of space to move around

Now here is a subject so close to my heart. IVF treatment without it my beautiful daughter would not exist and I would still be the broken hearted incompleate person that I was for all the years I tried desperatly to have a child. I know many people believe that not being able to have a child is not a medical problem, but I honestly believe that it was an illness for me. I so desperatly believed that I was meant to have a child and my hormones I believe played a role in that and every month I felt a hurt and a pain when a pregnancy did not happen that I can not begin to put into words. When my daughter was born I can honestly say that I felt whole and well and complete. I wished I could explain what I am trying to say in the right words. I had my fertility treatment in another country, on their equivalent to the nhs, it meant I did not get it free I had to pay for doctors visits and the drugs, but only to a limit so I got it at a reduced rate a fair compromise I feel. There was also a limit to two full attempts if both of those had failed I knew there would be no more help from their nhs. I would love to see the UK do something similar for everyone who needs nhs treatment for treatments like IVF a way to help people who might not be able to afford private treatment but also not make it totally free a kind of compromise. I do believe that IVF should be available in some form though to everyday couples who find themselves unable to concieve naturally and so desperate to have a child. I will always be greatful to the doctors nurses and the nhs equivalent service that played a part in the creation of the child that is my daughter. That gave me the ability to be a Mother. Sorry for the rambling mushy post

I feel really sad for the parents and babies that are following the strict routine method. The parents are taking part in an experiment and missing out on precious memories and bonding with their babies, a time they will never ever be able to reclaim. The babies I feel are missing out on the love of their parents. I do not know which catagory of parenting I fall into really. With Lydia I have tried to give her routine because I think it is good to have, in that she has a bedtime routine, a bath etc etc... However her routine has never ever been set in stone it has been open to change I certainly could not leave her to cry if she was hungry wanting a cuddle or needing something. I feel that the methods that this woman is using really disturbing, babies cry because that is how they communicate their needs and if those cries are igonored then surely their needs are not being met? I wished I could sleep in a bed with Lydia but I find it impossible, I could not relax for a second the few times I have tried it I was just too terrified that I would roll over on her etc etc and just layed awake which was no good as it left me exhausted. I do not get my head around the idea that a baby should fit into your routine from day 1, why have a child if you are not prepared to adapt your life at all or to give up your time to that child? I think as a baby or child grows you can teach them boundries etc but I am just totally baffled by this womans methods in this day and age. I dont disagree with her ideas though about baby sleeping outside getting fresh air. I do not sleep Lydia outside, 1 because I worry about her being alone out there, and secondly we havent got a garden anyway. I do however do my best to ensure I take her out every day for a long stroll around the park or just walking around. Someone earlier mentioned about prams facing the parents, Lydias prams face both ways. I was adamant to have a pram that she could face me, I remember having a conversation with a nurse many years ago and she talked about how it was so good for babies language development and security to face the mother as it is a prime time when the mother chats to the baby about what is going on around them. It must have stuck with me, because I really felt strongly that she would have a pram that could face the parent once she was out of the carrycot stage.

Frodo as lots of you will know has not had the easiest of times. He is a wonderful boy but has had his issues from a very young age. He and I especially have overcome a lot, but one issue we have always struggled with is him coping with strangers coming into the house especially. Today when Johan was out my sister was coming back to mine, from day one he has always been great with my sister which has facinated me. But she arranged for her friend to meet her at mine. I was in pieces wondering how to deal with Frodo. My sister thought I was over reacting and basically said I should just relax and not show my stress to Frodo. I would have been calmer if Johan was around but I know that I would not cope if Frodo took an exception to anyone. My sister though was totally confident that she could cope. Eventually I agreed to it. Although at first Frodo really barked once her friend was in the house he was at first very interested in what was going on. I think it helped that my sisters friend knows how to deal with dogs and she totally respected our instructions to actually pretend that Frodo did not exist. He had already met her daughter so was not worried about her at all, once Frodo makes friends with someone they are friends for life as far as he is concerned. By the end of the afternoon Frodo curled up one end of the Sofa and my sisters friend sitting at the other end. This was a huge step for Frodo and he even accepted some treats a bit later and I think eventually there is hope that Frodo will learn that not all strangers are something to fear. I took this picture a week or so ago of my boy snuggled with one of Lydias teddys

Have only just seen this sending to you and malcolm and wishing him a speedy recovery and continued good wishes

Sending my thoughts

Sofia developed very early and is still developing now. Bless her she stands out like a sore thumb around all of the girls in her class and has suffered for it too. We had to do the same as you and brought her vest tops early for under her clothes and now she has to have adult tops not because of any other reason but she can not fit into child tops anymore. Also we have to help Sofia to look after her skin because she suffers terrible from spots, but that I think is more a case of her mother neglecting her in the department of hygine etc. Since after a couple of days of being here her skin has cleared up and I do feel it is a lot to do with she gets a regular bath and lots of fresh fruit and vegetables. Fortunatly she is in the age where hopefully the other girls will start to catch up with her and I hope it becomes easier for her. Re the hair colouring I think there is a huge difference with a semi permenant hair colour that will be gone in time for school and a permenent hair dye or permenant highlights. We do allow Sofia to wear make up but to the degree of a little mascara and a little lip gloss but nothing more than that. What I find frustraiting is how the fashion in the shops is. Even for Lydia, now I am very old fashioned with clothes actually and believe in babies being dressed like babies, and children being dressed like children. But sometimes I get shocked at babies clothes even that look like and are designed as mini adult clothes. I dread the battles that I will have with Lydia in the future as I will not under any circumstances allow her to dress above her age, with Sofia I have to when we have her actually work to get her into clothes that are nicer and more fitting for her, since she is actually very neglected with clothes and hygine things by her Mother. I do not think just because their friends have it is a justification for the parents to allow it.

Sorry to hear about your situation It is no secret between my MIL and myself that we really do not like each other. Since Lydia has been born though I have really made a big effort to ensure that her paternal grandparents have a good relationship and feel involved in her life. Now we no longer live in Sweden they do not get to see her but I make sure that I send lots of photos at least one or two a week and I also video her each month throughout the month and send them a dvd at the end of the month so they can see her and feel involved in how she is progressing and advancing. I know it is not the same as being able to see her but I hope it goes someway to keep them in touch with her life. Even though I know there is no love lost between me and my MIL I do recognise that she is a caring Grandparent who would never ignore her Grandchild because of our feelings towards one and other so therefore feel that it is not my place right or wish to stand in the way of Lydia and her extended family. I hope that the childrens Mother will see that she is only hurting her children in the long run and come around to be more kind and fair to you soon. Unfortunatly though their is so many people out there after divorces/breakups where they stop looking at the best for the children. As we so well know from how things have worked out with Johans eldest children because his ex wife thinks of herself first above the children, but that is all a whole different subject.

Good Luck Bumpy

Happy Belated Gotcha day Timmy Hope you had a lovely day

Happy 2nd Gotcha Day Bumpy Hope you have a lovely day today Wendywoo, Frodo boy and Lydia

that really looks very comfy

Sending lots of positive thoughts for Poppy

Aww congratulations to you and Purdie

yes and from what i understood from the way it was reported on the news today, it really was put across in a way sympathetic towards the animals and more harsh towards owners who fail their dogs with poor training or to allow a dog into a situation

If the dog is not under control so I guess what it means is if your dog is a danger to others or his self for any reason then it will have to be kept on lead at all times, not all breeds all of the time, (Sorry if I didnt express it very well) The point in all breeds is that no one breed is being targeted for anything, it is that individual situations with dogs that pose a problem will be delt with in the steps explained.

Was watching the news here today, they are bringing in new laws regarding owning dogs of All breeds and it seems they really are thinking along the lines of Deed not breed. From what I understood it will go in stages, dog must be on lead at all time, failing that Muzzled fully when out, right through to fines for owners and the final stage is a total ban on owning animals at all. From what I understood of it and what Johan explained when I was not sure on some bits, that if a dog were to inflict a serious injury it would lose its life, but the blame is being put on the owners and there is no bans coming in against any breeds.

Am so sorry thoughts for you

Bless him

beautiful

lol bless her