Anne Grose Posted October 13, 2012 Report Share Posted October 13, 2012 Two weeks ago we said goodbye to a dog who had arrived in our garden as a badly bitten, very much worse for wear collie cross. He has gone to the loveliest of homes after spending two and half months here getting well, confident and happy. I miss him dreadfully, this is the first time I have ever "fostered" a dog and I got terribly attached to him. Is it normal for foster mum's to want to rush over to the new home, snatch back their foster dog and tell them they can't have him. I have two beautiful dogs of my own and really didn't want a third permanently, so I know in my heart of heart's that this was the right decision, especially as I hear that Freddie is so happy. How do you other foster mum's cope with saying goodbye. Is doing it all again help?? Or, is it just as bad the second time around?? Anne Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lil_angel Posted October 13, 2012 Report Share Posted October 13, 2012 Alot of our fosterers feel like that when their foster dog goes to their new home. I think some feel that way every time and then some dogs more than other will pull on the heart strings. I think at the end of it the fosterer think they have done a good job the dog has gone off to a new home and they can now turn their attentions on the next poor soul who needs a temporary home. We temporarily fostered a JRT X for a week before he went to his foster home and my parents considered keeping him but we couldnt offer the home he required. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sue B Posted October 14, 2012 Report Share Posted October 14, 2012 That 'little face in the back of the car window' syndrome - know it so well! I have fostered 100 plus dogs, mostly over a three year period when I first started working at The Mayhew, then had my own dog/s but occasionnaly fostered, now back to fostering again. With a few rare exceptions, i have been choked every time I had to say goodbye to a foster, but found the best way to get over the last foster, was to take on another foster. One more thing, if you ever have the pleasure of meeting ex fosters again - maybe at events the rescue you foster for holds - then you will find out that they NEVER forget you, you cannot beat the joy of seeing an ex foster all happy, healthy and much loved, bound into your arms with joy, then proudly show you how much they love their new family - priceless! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne Grose Posted October 14, 2012 Author Report Share Posted October 14, 2012 Sue, Amy - thanks for the reply. I am glad it is a normal feeling. I will meet our Freddie again because he has gone to live with friends of ours. I have backed off meeting him again too soon as I want him to bond with his new owners and not "fret"for me. We are going to see him again in about 10 days time when he will have been living with them for nearly a month. I can't wait to see that reaction Sue, it will make me very happy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ian Posted October 16, 2012 Report Share Posted October 16, 2012 Some people are better at letting them go than others. I don't even like watching it when I see someone else say goodbye to their dog Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindere528 Posted October 17, 2012 Report Share Posted October 17, 2012 (edited) I've fostered just twice. And failed both times! My first failure was Violet, and she'd only been in the car with me for about half an hour when I realised I had to keep her. As soon as we arrived home, I emailed Many Tears and said I wanted to keep her. Sadly, Violet had cancer and she went to Rainbow Bridge exactly 54 weeks after she arrived :cry: My second failure was Betsy, who is still here. Betsy drove me potty (and still does) because she is so naughty. But when some prospective adopters came to see her, I realised that I love her to bits and couldn't let her go I may foster again in the future, but can't guarantee I'll let them go. Edited October 17, 2012 by cindere528 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suzeanna Posted October 18, 2012 Report Share Posted October 18, 2012 I daren't foster...luckily I can't afford to...as I know perfectly well I wouldn't want to let the dog go, and we can't have more than two, finances just won't stretch! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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