Fantastic post and I'm so pleased to see 'that' topic mentioned as many newbies may have missed it.
That post changed my life, too. Again, no physical abuse but I was very depressed, walking on eggshells, tired of always being in the wrong, always never doing enough, my every move being scrutinised and judged.
If anyone out there is having doubts about where their relationship is at, PLEASE go and read that post. It gave me the confidence to walk away from a 30+ year relationship that made me a shadow of myself.
to Jules and more to Ruth & Les.