thats also a very good point, although we normally think of women being in such relationships it is also men
in my previous post I mentioned the man at work who offered me a place to stay , he had been married to a woman who sounded like the twin of my then boyfriend who had started to hit me ( but only places no one would see )
she was every bit as controlling and used to hit him and as he was a decent sort he would never defend himself physically so he was in fact a battered husband ( both mentally and physically ) I think thats why he went out of his way to help me as he recognised me as someone trapped by a controlling partner
when he offered me the room in his house I was still unconvinced I could really go through with it and kept coming up with excuses
he gave me what turned out to be some of the very best advice I have ever been offered , he said " you will always find reasons to stay, but you only need one reason to leave"
I owe a hell of a lot to that chap
Sam