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I think you're the one who needs support and sympathy - you shouldn't be feeling you're not "ready" for the things he wants...it's enough that you don't want them now.
He has no right to make you feel guilty, or responsible for catering to his "needs", either. That's his problem, and he has to deal with it.
Seriously, try to get some proper therapeutic support - your situation sounds pretty serious to me. I think you need to look at learning how to care for yourself, before you worry about caring for another adult.
Think about whether your own needs are being met in this relationship - at the moment it sounds as though the emphasis is on your OH's. You are entitled to feel safe, free, and cherished - and above all, you should be able to be yourself - and that includes the right to change your mind about things you want to take part in.
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However, given that they don't actually SELL dog toys or treats, why on earth they didn't show the little lad bringing the dog inside to lol on a John Lewis sofa or beanbag - they do sell giant waterproof beanbags, which I'd have thought would be ideal product placement - is completely beyond me . Would be a much better ad that way and nobody would have been upset at all.
Absolutely. What an advertising opportunity they missed there. I thought the images jarred - the dog alone in the snow, and yet the child is taking it a Christmas present, before wandering back into the warm house. Either the dog is an outdoor dog with no need for home comforts (even Christmas treats) or it's a family pet. Seems John Lewis couldn't decide.
I know the attitudes of some country people, especially towards dogs seen as working types...however, they tend not to live in John Lewis land.
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Bruno was on Alan Titchmark's show. He said it was an entertainment programme and Ann was entertaining.
The man's deluded. Who on earth is enjoying this?
Do they find clowns and custard pies entertaining too?Anyway, I though Kara was brilliant, and Scott too. They can dance - and that is entertaining.
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Glad all is well.
Hope the sickness passes and that you enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. -
That looks like fabulous fun, right up my street. Might see if I can find one locally.
I have a friend who does lots of exercise classes and Zumba is her favourite - it's great fun, and you hardly know you're exercising, apparently. I like the sound of that.
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And here's another version...(can't hear the music, and it looks a bit more basic)
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They are holding Zumba classes at the community centre very near me..I must confess I don't have a clue what they are?
well, here's one version...
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I keep wanting to phone her and tell her something funny that's happened or ask her advice over something that's getting me down and I forget momentarily that I can't and it all comes back.
People have diesd befre and I@ve alays just got on with it as it were but this has really wiped me. And I'm a little lost.
Thanks in advance
There's something unique about losing your mother - you've become an orphan, no matter what age you are, and it feels horrible. No-one else will ever feel the same way about you, no-one else will ever think of you as her baby.
I didn't get on with my mother - I found her distant and harsh and she criticised me all my life...but still, when she died, in my arms at my home, I was bereft - drugs had softened her in her latter months and I caught a glimpse of the mother she might have been. It broke my heart, but I did my best to make those days matter.
You've had a Mama who cherished you all her days - why wouldn't you feel absolutely shattered?
I think the busy-ness around the funeral time keeps you going...it's the weeks after, when the horrible reality hits home.When my mother finally died, I had a few days where I felt weirdly up-beat - almost relieved - and then...well, I rather lost the plot. I made a mess of my life for a year or so and it took me some time to get things back on track. And I was 52!!
Be kind to yourself - don't let people tell you that it's time you were over it - in one sense you will never get over it. Gradually, you'll absorb the essence of your mother - her love and all the things she meant to you - and you'll hold her in your heart.
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What worries me most about the current government is their punitive attitude. We are being given the impression that we as a nation are all lazy good-for-nothings who must be punished as severely as possible for the financial mess the country is in. The older generation, most of whom have worked hard all their lives, are the frequent target for blame. It is not helpful to demoralise people, and that is what this government is doing. We are expected to feel ashamed of ourselves and to feel that we deserve everything we get. A nation in crisis needs to be encouraged, not demoralised.
I agree. I also think it does no good to demonise certain sections of society, as if all the unemployed are "workshy" and all those on sickness benefits are "playing the system", while the rest of us - including highly paid MPs - are beyond reproach.
This country is in a mess but we're not going to sort it out by forcing people (and how do we intend to force them?) to work for four weeks at something they resent. That isn't educational, an encouragement or an incentive - it's punitive, though what this government hopes to achieve is unclear. It's the kind of thing angry tabloid-readers might suggest, not our political leaders.
Do they really imagine that the lives of those who really do not want to work (and I accept they exist) will be transformed? That four weeks' miserable labour will give them something to aspire to?
All this will do is further divide the people of this country - and that's the last thing we need.
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I have heard of him, somewhere & have the the distinct impression this is probably a daft question but who on earth is this Jimmi? I don't believe he should have been the one to go whoever he is.
It's Jimi Mistry, actor. I certainly didn't think he deserved to go, compared to some.
Apologies if that's ageist or some other PC term.
I don't see it as ageist at all. As I've said, she's younger than me - but she is dreadfully overweight, unfit and has no sense of rhythm - so she ain't ever gonna make a dancer.
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What lovely news.
I don't know what age you are, but I know several late-30s women having their first babies. (One is my daughter-in-law.
) And one woman I know had her first two years ago at 40, and is now expecting her second, at 42.I wish you a happy, healthy pregnancy.
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I agree with Merledogs. It's way beyond a joke; I never found Widdecombe entertaining and the fact that she hasn't bowed out just proves she has no dignity. I still wonder if she doesn't realise how truly awful she is.
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I am so going to cry this morning. All of the girls and Mr Hazell were off last week. It was lovely us all being together everyday
That's so refreshing to hear.
I sometimes wonder why people have children - all you hear is "thank god the holidays are over". I used to hate the end of the school holidays too - I preferred having my children around.Oh, and by the way, teenagers (boys too) are never as cocky and independent as they act. They need as much attention and reassurance as toddlers - it's just harder with older kids because they won't always let you hug them better.
She sent me a rubber small skeleton once from somewhere she had been without us. As a child I assumed it was hell
I shouldn't laugh, because your childhood sounds sad...but you certainly have a way with words
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I've had to stop watching the show - I catch up on Youtube later, so I can edit my viewing.
I have just discovered to my horror that I'm older than Ann Widdecombe.
I don't know anyone among my friends who is so unfit or ungainly - weight issues and lack of fitness aside, she has zilch sense of rhythm. Has she never danced in her life??It's horrible to watch, and I'm not convinced she knows how bad she is.
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Peter Stilton cos of his cheesy dancing
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Mummy Owl is in the short stay ward at hospital. Her GP called today and decided to send her there so she doesn't get as ill as she did earlier this year. She thinks he is making a fuss about nothing ... because she can't remember being in hospital a few months back
I'm sorry to hear that. Hope she recovers quickly and gets back to normal.
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Poor neglected boy....
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I have to agree too. I also make a point of not noting dates of bad things (like pets dying) after having seen OH's mother do massive gloomy periods leading up to anniversary dates.
Also having seen the large number of people in intensive care this last week, I've realised how many other people have very poorly friends and family all the time. I'm not explaining it very well! I think what I mean is that although there are bad things going on somewhere all the time there are also good things happening all the time too and you can't write the good things off.
I think that's a very positive approach.
I have an elderly neighbour up north who catalogues every miserable/gloomy/depressing incident in her life - and frequently, in her friends' lives. As she is now 90, this means she always has something to feel unhappy about...this, despite a supportive family, good friends and reliable neighbours. She's just a negative person - I've known her for 30 years and she's never been the sort to see the best in people or situations. She thinks the world is going to pot, she hates the way society is changing, she doesn't like animals or small children - nothing seems to bring her joy. I dread visiting her; it's a litany of dismal anniversaries. I have joined Facebook because people keep sending me links which I can only access if I join. Please can someone tell me how everyone else has time to do Facebook, Twitter, emails, rescue work/lost dogs, watch TV, do housework and cooking, walk/train dogs, earn a living and have a social life plus have a partner/relationship and/or children in just 24 hrs a day and still get some sleep?
They don't. There are things on your list which other people wouldn't dream of doing - I suspect your busy life is not the norm.
I joined Facebook too - mostly to share photos with my extended family - but it's often another source of misery and negativity. There are Facebook users whose posts I dread reading; they're so negative about everyone and everything. I'd rather walk my dog, read my books and talk to people who find things to laugh about - life is hard enough.
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Well done, Lush.
Let's hope this campaign raises public awareness of the horrors these poor dogs face on the track.Lovely dogs.
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Thinking of you and your mum, Jazz.
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Brilliant!
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Thank you all for your good thoughts for my mum. She is quite poorly this morning and we are waiting for the results of another scan.
Thinking of your mum and hoping for good news.
My fab Shag-me-shoes arrived today
Ed's back home today, but the good news is he's away working again next week !
. I've so loved being here on my own.The shoes aren't for his benefit, then?
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No one - civilian or otherwise - should have to live under those conditions on a daily basis. I don't think war achieves much these days, and I'm not convinced that most people understand what's going on, either. Just imagine trying to bring up a young family, with armed soldiers around, and the ever-present danger of mines and explosives.
My father was a Commando in WW2 - he fought other young men because he thought he was doing the right thing, but most of all, because he had no choice. Other people - men with education and power - made decisions about his life, and unlike many of his young comrades, he survived. He said that if my brothers ever joined up, his heart would break - he saw nothing noble about war and the destruction of young lives on all sides. I feel the same.
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Matt was excellent, liked Scott, thought Pamela did very well - though I can't stand her
- but Felicity Kendall was a disappointment. Very fit, but far too stiff. Maybe she'll relax as the series progresses, but I expected more.
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I cannot imagine ever laughing at anything before a smear.
Congratulations. 
What a tragic waste.