There is a difference between tolerating things and not being aware of them. For the most part some of the isses that the owner of arofe mentioned other forum had were not especially public and did not affect anyone that they knew. I that case it was definitly a case of not being aware.
I think I know the people that are being referred to by your comment. What changed is they saw some of their friends get a serious public slating by the owner of the forum. Now while this may not be a personal axe to grind it would certianly embitter you to the owner, and in turn the ofrum in general.
I very much doubt you, or roxysmum have experienced or seen someone go through the sort of inquisition that happens. If you had you I'm sure you would reconsider your comments here. Those who say 'Get over it' are in a similar vein - it is not that easy especially when you integrity, reputation and in some cases livelyhood are threatened by the actions on on forum owner.
There will always be a degree of sniping going on, but that doesn't affect the dogs (no really, it doesn't!) and for the most part it is based on fact and experience it. In my opinion the people that need to move on are the ones that feel they have to defend other forums policies and complain when those who have been affected voice there concerns.