Elaine
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You could also look for Transactional Analysis (TA) courses for long term change personally I think you'd learn and gain far more from going down this route, NLP is a fabulous tool which can and does work, but it's here and now based whereas TA gets you to look at why it is you think and believe the things you do and gets you thinking about whether or not you want to go on thinking like that (simplistic version of what TA does). TA is particularly useful for anyone who tends to feel guilty about things or does stuff because they thing they "should, must or ought" to do it - and then gets a massive case of the guilt's if you don't do those things. It's a slower way of getting to know yourself but because you learn about yourself slowly and really look at the way you think and react it tends to be incredibly revealing and the changes IFFF you want to make them are more lasting.
TA is what I'm doing with my luffly therapist. I think it's great - for me, anyway
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I would look for another job first too. Must admit, it sounds bloody awful
I thought I had it bad with no internet access, but at £10 an hour and the freedom to take long lunches to see to the dogs etc, I've got it made.I wouldn't be keen on a lodger, but I value my privacy too much. This is *my* house
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As another 'I'll change my life if it kills me'
person, I have heard a little bit about it. I don't know enough to comment properly, but I do know that now I've adopted a more positive approach, or at the very least more laid back, people do respond to me differently - more positively, in fact It's easy to put subconscious barriers up, it's less easy to take them down.That probably doesn't help one jot
I guess I kind of agree with the theory. I smile at people, they smile back. I'm approachable, they approach. Okay, maybe I don't really want them to, but the thought's there
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I agree the second photo is fantastic
Lydia looks like she has soooo much character 
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Some rather lovely ones of Mrs Melps there
And Wendy, WTF were you saying as you were groping the balloons?
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I am
I need more short friends
I didn't realise you were so diddy!!
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Oooh, nice frocks - love yours, Ellie
And Charis is stunning!And I can see the necklace I made Snow
Umm Wendy, are you a midget? You look minute in between Sarah and Allan number something
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Gawd, didn't EVERYBODY get taught the rhyme "I before E except after C"?
Perhaps they don't teach stuff like that anymore
Found this on Ebay the other day:
http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/I-FACEBOOKED-YOURE-M...1QQcmdZViewItem
And did you notice in the description it says this?
MADE THE DAY THERE PAID -
Rohan and I are laughing at the men on Match.com
I found one of my old uni lecturers on there - he was a nice bloke, but looked like his Mum still bought his clothes. I'm sworn off academics for life, so I'm not even going there -
I'm dreading tomorrow already. My therapist is going to be calling me though, so hopefully that will knock some sanity back into me. I have never felt like this over someone in my life, so I do wonder if it's worth letting someone get that close again. I know I was no angel, and some of my behaviour (borne of fear, not of malice) was bonkers, but I was never intentionally cruel. Okay, I was when I told him he was an emotional retard with zero integrity
but other than that.......I've got through worse, so I know that sooner or later I'll get over this. I'll stop banging on about it now.
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I took more than the recommended dosage of Kalms Night-time tablets last night and managed 7 hours sleep. My eyes look terrible, all puffy and icky. Ro says I'm beautiful though, so what the hell.
I'm pathetic - there's no way he can contact me by email, as he doesn't know my new email address. So why does my stomach lurch when I get an email
I'm so angry with myself when I should be angry with him.Anyway, my therapist is texting me between flights back from Italy. She's so nice and at least she won't call me a pathetic cow.
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Monty won't leave me alone. If I move, he's at my side. If I sit down, he's clambering onto my lap and pressing himself against me. He's upset that I'm upset
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When I need her the most, my therapist is abroad. My friends are trotting out the "But who needs him? You're gorgeous, fun to be with, you'll find someone else no problem!" line. Funnily enough, it doesn't help.
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I just feel stupid
I believed him - I believed IN him - and I would never treat anyone the way he's treated me. So yes, my head knows I deserve better, but my heart is shattered I'm trying to explain to Ro that it's okay that I'm upset, that it's not him and that I need to cry to get rid of this hurt, but the kid's bewildered - yet I can't stop Someone just give a slap. -
Short of changing my telephone number or moving house, I have blocked contact with a certain person. I deleted my email address, deleted his numbers. I have no intention of contacting him again. If he doesn't collect his things within a week, they're going to the charity shop.
I feel sick, wobbly, right back to where I started
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No, it's not work. I always keep my distance at work, especially in this place. This is someone who said all the right things, over an extended period, who suckered me and then treated me in the coldest way possible. Someone I loved, and someone I believed loved me. But it was all just an illusion, and it's time for me to face up to that. And it's time to stop making excuses for people who treat me like dirt. I'm working so hard to get myself in a better place, and I know I would never do to anyone what he did to me. Logical, smart side of me knows that it's him with the problem. It's just so hard to admit to yourself that you were so very, very wrong. So I feel stupid, humiliated and used.
But I've survived worse, and I'll get over this in time. And maybe there's someone out there who'll love me for who I am.
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Ro's Dad has just phoned. Ro's been sick in the night - perfect excuse for me not to go to work. And now I feel more awful, because he (Ro's Dad) was so upset that I was upset, and I'm too bloody ashamed to tell him why I feel like this. For all we were shyte as a couple, the temptation to ask if he'd have me back is huge - not because I love him, but because I feel so alone. And at least with him you know what you're getting. How pathetic am I to consider it?
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I normally don't trust, that's the thing. But this time I decided to let down my guard, this time I believed the claim that I was right to trust. And now I feel so very stupid, like everything was just one big lie and I was too thick to realise it.
I have no idea how I'm going to get through work today without dissolving into a sobbing heap.
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Morning. I have had 2.5 hours sleep. I'm contemplating not going into work. I found out last night just how little I meant to someone and how very wrong I was to trust them the way I had done. I know it's not me, it's them - but it still hurts like hell.
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Hello. I have been feeling very antisocial. I've worked out a few things that were bothering me though, so I'm feeling slightly less antisocial
When I started at the place I'm working, I was on £10 an hour. I knew the admin staff were on a lower rate of £8 an hour. I presumed that my rate would be lowered when I moved to the admin department. I got my monthly payslip today and it hasn't been. They've paid the whole lot at my original rate. This makes a massive difference, so I'm awfully chuffed
As they're so desperate for me to stay (and as I've already started on the sales admin job they want me to do), they probably wouldn't dare question it now. Monty has had no ill effects from the shoe and curry paste incident. In fact, he is being very puppylike and endearing (if you call hauling Indy round the house by her collar endearing).
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I am going back to work. The office manager does my head in
She has the loudest, most braying and annoying laugh ever. I sit sort of behind and to one side of her. So if she does it again, I'm going to throw my stapler at her head I've just had a sandwich that looked much much nicer than it tasted. Bleurgh. Just going to do a double check for stray shoes lying around before heading back to work. Don't wanna
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Morning. I am going to work today, even though I'm still having bouts of extreme hotness (and not in any good way either). As I only worked 3 days last week, I can't afford another 3 day week. I guess I better go straighten my hair and iron something to wear
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I am trying to explain to Monty and Indy (specially Monty) that whilst I love them very much, having them both pressed up against me whilst I'm having a feverish sweat on the sofa isn't particularly helpful. I keep having to get up and go and stand at the open back door (good job I don't have any neighbours that can see the back door - standing in my dressing gown with my hair all tangled and sweaty probably isn't an attractive look).
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Having another massive bout of sweating. It's just so attractive
The headache's gone, and I have my drowsy Benilyn, so hopefully I'll be okay to go to work tomorrow. If I'm still feverish and icky I'm going to be sensible and stay at home. I know it's not going to take much to knock me for six so everyone who said it was better to be off for a day or two now was right
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My electricity bills are the stuff nightmares are made of. Petrol I'm not noticing as much because my commute to work is much shorter. About £40 a week on petrol does me. If I were working in Aberdeen, it would be double that.
I have no idea how I'm going to cope in winter. My house is freezing when the temperature drops.