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  4. Controlling Relationships

    in Non Animal Chat

    Posted

    I am sitting here reading this thread I didn't even know it exists. I am very close to crying as many memories come back.

    Being for 10 years in a very controlling marriage and eventually have the courage to break out with the help of a friend who then very soon becomes the next mentally abusive partner. How bizarre is that?

    Both men used different forms of abuse. My EX husband was very controlling and jealous, my ex partner liked to make me small and abuse me verbally and I had quite a bit of the "playful" bruises too.

    Both men had in common that they liked to play guilt trips and made me feel inadequate.

    Reading through all the posts made me realise that I must have been very receptive to this behaviour as my mum used to raise me with guilt trips, if I didn't do as she expected she played the guilt trips.

     

    I am single now for more than 2 years and don't think I could start a relation ship now.

    This threat helped me to realised why and see many connection in my behaviour and what happened.

    I have to say both men were extremely charming and nobody outside could udnerstand why I wanted to end the relationship.

    When I left my husband my family turned their back on me as they didn't understand why I wanted to leave.

    Now I wonder why it took me 10 years to realise what was going on.

    My ex partner still likes to keep in touch and try his "power" over me in suddenly turning up and charming the "knickers" off.

    A few weeks ago I mailed him to leave me alone and never to contact me again. It took me quite a while to do that. I think it takes a while to see how manipulation works. I must be very slow :mellow:

     

    Thanks so much for starting this thread.

  9. Looking For Agility Club

    in Activities

    Posted

    Thanks for asking, Kiri, yes, I found a club. We could join an existing class as my BC already has some Agility experience. Now I am just looking for a club for my Akita, she has no experience so that seem to be more difficult, especially as they are not very popular as a breed.

  10. White Akita Stolen

    in Lost and Found

    Posted · Edited by akitas

    With permission of Akita Rescue and Welfare I crosspost this:

     

     

     

    Just to let you all know that Snowy who was

    on our welfare page has been stolen.

     

    The new owners had walked Snowy to the local

    paper shop where they met a man who admired

    the dog.

    The new owner asked if this person would care

    to hold Snowies lead while they popped

    into the shop to buy a paper, when they came out

    the person and Snowy where gone.

     

    This has been reported to the police and to Battersea

    as this is where Snowy had been rehomed from.

    Battersea are livid that anyone could be so stupid as

    to ask a complete stranger to look after a dog so they

    could pop into a shop and do some shopping.

     

    Snowy was re homed in the London area, when I get more

    details as location I will post to the board.

     

    Please crosspost to any other forums or sites that you

    can think of, We need to make this dog to hot to handle

    so with a little luck we will get the dog back.

     

    Snowy it micro chipped and has been done so there is no

    chance of being used in breeding.

     

     

    This three year old, neutered Akita was stolen outside the newsagents on Crest Road, London, NW2 7UB, on Saturday the 1st July.

     

    If you have seen her, if you know where she is, if you have any information please help her to be reunited with her owner who is distraught with worry.

     

    Call: 020 7627 9231 Battersea www.dogshome.org

     

     

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  13. Training Book

    in Behaviour and Training

    Posted

    Though my newest addition is a Border Collie, I can't say that he would do anything for me without motivation. Might be a bit too much to ask for as we just have him 2 weeks now.

    My Akita would now, but as I said before, not if I hadn't trained her with food before hand.

    I think I stick with what has worked for me once.

    WOuld be great to find a dog who just does things for you out of respect, but saying that, not even my children do that :D

     

    Thanks for all your answers.

  17. Training Book

    in Behaviour and Training

    Posted

    As my last adopted rescue dog is a Border Collie, I went out and bought a few books about Border Collies and how to train them.

    I bought several books and one was the Border Collie book by Barbara Sykes.

     

    She keeps saying in her book, that she doesn't believe in rewarding with treats or toys, the dog shoulr respect you because of your acting as a respectable pack leader.

    I was wondering how I do that.

    First I don't have puppies. All my dogs are rescue dogs and quite set in their ways.

    I trained my Akita up to obedience level, but don't think she would do all that if no food were involved.

    She is quite food orientated.

    Now, after training her for more than a year, she would do things even without food, just because she is so used to it.

     

    I just don't understand how I can convince my dog to work with me/for me out of sheer respect.

     

    The Border Collie I adopted is very toy orientated. He loves playing with the frisbee outdoors, if we don't play he usually wanders around, not running off though. I can get his attention when I call his name, but without having a toy or pretending to have something interesting he would sometimes be reluctant to come back (saying that I only have him for a short time now)

     

    Anyway, the whole point of my question is, if somebody can explain to me how Barbara's training method works. And if I can apply it to rescue dogs as well.

    I am grateful for any opinion.

     

    Thanks.

  20. Looking For Agility Club

    in Activities

    Posted

    Hi, no idea if this is the right section. I am lookinging for an Agility Club in either Sussex, Sussex-Surrey area or Sussex-Kent area.

     

    I looked on Agilitynet and left messages on several answer phones, but nobody came back to me. So if anybody knows anything in those areas, please let me know.

    I was told that Jake has done some Agility in the rescue he was, but I am a total novice and haven't done any yet.

     

    Thanks a lot!

  21. Introduce Yourself

    in The Place to Start

    Posted

    Thanks for all your welcome.

    My little girl is called Kioko. And I have to say I enjoyed the chat when you did the homecheck, though it feels like I was talking all the time :wacko:

     

    I have to go out and take more pictures of doggies, but strange enough recently I am far too busy throwing frisbees and the rescueing them out of tress, bushes or ponds :biggrin:

    But will try my best.

    Would love to see pictures of all your doggies too.

  24. Introduce Yourself

    in The Place to Start

    Posted

    Hi all,

     

    somebody was nice enough to post the link, so I know where to introduce myself. I probably will never be ablt to find the place where I posted this ever again :biggrin:

     

    I found this site through the nice young lady who homechecked me to adopt my last addition to my family.

    My family that is myself and my 3 children, the doggy family is 1 female Akita, 1 female Shiba inu and now a male Border Collie. (This is not a dating site, is it :laugh: (JK))

    They are all rescue dogs. The first was my Akita. I worked very hard with her and hope to work her in Obedience at some point.

     

    I like dog forum (fori???) as I can meet like minded people without leaving my living room :cool:

    Which doesn't mean I don't like to leave my living room, it is just not always practical...

    And I appreciate the knowledge and experience of so many dog lovers. Looking forward to all the great advice.

     

    Re-reading what I wrote it sounds more like an application for a job...

     

    Maybe I should delete it and start all over again..

     

    But before I do that I will wade through around 13 pages of people introducing themselves :wacko:

     

    Off I go now...

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