owl Posted December 28, 2019 Report Share Posted December 28, 2019 (edited) Hostel sounds like a good idea as a first step, then go to council and explain the situation, that you are being threatened with battering and have been physically thrown out of the family home. From what you have said, you do a lot at home with cooking meals etc and it sounds as if family don't appreciate this. With any luck you may get council accommodation which allows dogs? Why do your family object to you being with Steve? Are they over-protective or just plain selfish? As for your father saying he and your mum would get divorced, that is their concern and should not be dependent on what you do. Sometimes people who don't have family think it is a blessing to have one at all. It certainly is not, when the people in it are having such a bad effect on each other. Edited December 28, 2019 by owl Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazz Posted December 28, 2019 Author Report Share Posted December 28, 2019 have you spoken to the council? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
griff Posted December 28, 2019 Report Share Posted December 28, 2019 Council is closed until the second Just going over to Steve's that's a couple of hours to get out 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owl Posted December 28, 2019 Report Share Posted December 28, 2019 Good idea. Hope he understands your situation now xx 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
griff Posted December 28, 2019 Report Share Posted December 28, 2019 He just told me to ring home Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazz Posted December 28, 2019 Author Report Share Posted December 28, 2019 all what you do for him, and he couldnt offer you a room? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
griff Posted December 28, 2019 Report Share Posted December 28, 2019 He is making me dinner...he was in this situation before and it ended very very badly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazz Posted December 28, 2019 Author Report Share Posted December 28, 2019 letting someone stay? he knows your genuine, should do Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owl Posted December 28, 2019 Report Share Posted December 28, 2019 He clearly hasn't got any kind of handle on this one. If he hasn't seen the conflict in your family for himself he may find it hard to imagine how serious it is. I have had a chat with my sister (not mentioning your name but explaining the situation) because in her years as a minister she has had to organise help for various people in crisis. There should be an Emergency Housing Officer attached to your council who should be available outside normal office hours, and because of your serious health problems combined with threat of violence you should qualify as a vulnerable adult. This would mean that the council are required to provide housing under an Act in 2014. Worth following up. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazz Posted December 28, 2019 Author Report Share Posted December 28, 2019 has she got any contacts near griff? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
owl Posted December 28, 2019 Report Share Posted December 28, 2019 Not that I know of as she is in Kent, but she did say that If Griff can't get hold of the emergency housing officer it is worthwhile contacting the local Methodist minister as they usually have a good local network of useful contacts, and you don't need to be any kind of believer to ask them. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
griff Posted December 28, 2019 Report Share Posted December 28, 2019 Thank you owl I rung home, on loudspeaker, asked if the dogs were o.k, yes...did you manage to give deags her medicine and probiotic...yes, I asked if they were all o.k and just got told yes , bye and she put the phone down on me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
griff Posted December 28, 2019 Report Share Posted December 28, 2019 Owl, he let Magdalena stay and she really did a number on him..this is my mess, not his so I will sort it out He has given me dinner, checked I am o.k for money and being a good friend...I was going to leave about 3 and he has asked me to stay for dinner Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jazz Posted December 28, 2019 Author Report Share Posted December 28, 2019 nothing to do with a mess, its helping when needed. ive got a 1 bedroomed place, but id be offering you the sofa Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen Posted December 28, 2019 Report Share Posted December 28, 2019 45 minutes ago, owl said: He clearly hasn't got any kind of handle on this one. If he hasn't seen the conflict in your family for himself he may find it hard to imagine how serious it is. I have had a chat with my sister (not mentioning your name but explaining the situation) because in her years as a minister she has had to organise help for various people in crisis. There should be an Emergency Housing Officer attached to your council who should be available outside normal office hours, and because of your serious health problems combined with threat of violence you should qualify as a vulnerable adult. This would mean that the council are required to provide housing under an Act in 2014. Worth following up. Griff I'm sorry to hear you are such a difficult situation. In addition to Owl's wise words above, I can recommend your local Citizens Advice. You can probably find out their opening hours online (might be open on Monday if you are lucky) and they can help you access the council's housing process. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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