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Jayne...my son hardly had a girlfriend right through his twenties and beginning of his thirties...he was too into motor bike racing to start with, and then he just didn't seem to meet any women he wanted to go out with, he said the young ones were too giggly and immature and the older ones just wanted a trip down the aisle after two dates! In his mid thirties, he was up in Scotland working for a week, met three girls in a pub and one of them was very interested in him...she cried at the end of the week when he said he was going back down South, rang him every day and invited herself down to visit a couple of weeks later. They are married now with a 4 year old son. I think my son is still wondering what happened! Don't want to insult you, but are you coming on either too casual or too desperate with any guys you meet? I agree weight isn't a problem, my OH met me when I was 8 stone...due to various health problems, mainly my thyroid giving up on me, I'm now 11 stone (argh!) but he tells me every day he finds me very sexy. I think obsessing about any aspect of your appearance can put men off..if you keep saying oh god, my nose is so big, or my hair is awful, or I'm too fat, they'll start to believe it. You look very pretty, you write funny posts, the right guy is out there..don't despair!

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Thanks guys, I wouldn't say I meet that many guys - I don't tend to go out on nights out or anything, so can't really come across as desperate or not interested, as I never really meet them! At the gym I work out, and am happy to talk to guys - I told a load of beefy blokes to try pressups on the Swiss ball last week, as they were showing off doing pressups and weights and stuff. They did try and all fell over :biggrin:

 

I don't really have many friends I go out with, as they all live far away. One of the main reasons for joining the gym was to give me somewhere other than the farm to meet people, not really worked out like that!

 

Anyway, I will meet someone one day, am sure of it, I just get really downhearted that yet another year has gone by without getting close to even getting a hug, let alone anything else!

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Jayne and Amy, if you are both single and would prefer not to be have you ever thought about having some coaching to boost your self-confidence? I am probably lucky that in the course of my work, I have been on some good courses. Some of the techniques that encourage you to think and see things differently are actually useful for life in general. Just a thought. I have a semi-retired friend who has taken up lifestyle coaching - she is not my coach but when we meet for lunch and a chat some of the things she says are quite thought-provoking. A good coach in my view just brings out the best in you - it is there already, but sometimes needs a little nurturing to emerge. It is so easy for all of us to get stuck in our various ruts and sometimes a little nudge in a different direction does us good.

 

Incidentally, I did not meet my husband until I was just over 30, although I hadn't been single for any significant periods before that. I dread to think what might have happened if I'd married some of the boyfriends I'd had when I was much younger! If I look around at my married friends many of them married later in life or have been divorced and are much happier second time round. Meeting Mr Right can happen at any age and marriage/permanent relationships in your 20's are not for everyone. Don't despair, you are both lovely people with lots going for you x

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Nothing wrong with either Jayne or Amy. Both of them are attractive, clever and agreeable. How they can get themselves in the right place at the right time to meet someone I don't know, but getting out and mixing more seems to be a good way forward.

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I've read this to him and he's very pleased :)

 

He only read To Kill A Mockingbird because he thought it was going to give him clues as to how to rid his garden of the pesky pigeons, doves and crows that sit and cruelly mock him but he liked Mr Finch's first name so he's adopted it. He's reading White Fang now so the next thing will be he'll be asking me to take him dog fighting in the Yukon.

 

Alex I have given a small donation via the link you posted :)

You do realise you are officially off your rocker? :laugh:

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Archie :confused:

 

Today I discovered a whole new world, the secret cult of Subaru worship. Needed a replacement seat belt anchor, and a net search brought up a specialist garage just south of Chesterfield. I called them and they said to come right over. Good thing they had a map on their website and signs along the way or I would have never found them. The place was a secluded farm full of dozens of old Subarus all beautifully sprayed and customised, mostly kitted out for racing or rallying. The guys were really welcoming and admired my Sybil who was the oldest car there, apparently she is a sports version of the Impreza and there aren't many on the road now. They soon found a replacement anchor and fitted it, and said they hope to see us again. So glad my sister couldn't bear to scrap her, she appears to be a classic. I must take care of her and not allow her to be cluttered up with crumbs, dog biccies and the usual stuff which collects everywhere i go.

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Moaning :tired:

 

Subarus are indeed seen as phallic symbols by some.

 

Back to my old place of work today. I am hoping that some people will be squirming :devil: and it will also be nice to see some friendly faces.

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Morning all :wavey:

 

Gooster Jayne - I will put in my two pennorth for what it's worth. In my opinion, it's better not to be in a relationship than in the wrong relationship. Just enjoy life and if the right man comes along, that's a bonus. If not, it's the 21st century and women can have a good life even if they are alone (provided they are surrounded by sufficient pets of course :) )

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Aha - I think the previous few posts may have cracked it - Gooster, you need to borrow Phebe's man magnet Subaru!!!

 

I have been single for about 11 years now! I have a group of good friends and we go out for a meal every week, I was recently laid low with the dreaded lurgy for a few weeks and that is honestly the first time that I actually thought it would be so much better if I was in a relationship simply because I felt so awful so someone to look after me, tuck me in, bring me drinks, change the bedding etc would have been nice - but now I am better I have actually sat down and worked out that I would HATE to live with anyone full time again (a few days here and there fine but I need my space!), that I would not be able to do things on the spur of the moment, and more importantly - where would the dogs sleep?!!? But maybe it would be good to have someone share the drive/set up caravan/walk dogs/prepare food on the weekends away???

 

So - if anyone knows a tall (I am tall and for once I would like to be able to wear heels if I go out and feel small), middle aged man with a good sense of humour who would be happy to have a dedicated relationship but not live in the same house, then let me know - he must be a dog lover!!!

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Archie :confused:

 

Today I discovered a whole new world, the secret cult of Subaru worship. Needed a replacement seat belt anchor, and a net search brought up a specialist garage just south of Chesterfield. I called them and they said to come right over. Good thing they had a map on their website and signs along the way or I would have never found them. The place was a secluded farm full of dozens of old Subarus all beautifully sprayed and customised, mostly kitted out for racing or rallying. The guys were really welcoming and admired my Sybil who was the oldest car there, apparently she is a sports version of the Impreza and there aren't many on the road now. They soon found a replacement anchor and fitted it, and said they hope to see us again. So glad my sister couldn't bear to scrap her, she appears to be a classic. I must take care of her and not allow her to be cluttered up with crumbs, dog biccies and the usual stuff which collects everywhere i go.

 

 

you have to write a book Owl , you really really must :) you have the most amazingly funny adventures

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A phallic symbol? Eek. Some of the rally cars were a bit that way with their massive exhausts, but Sybil just looks neat and understated in dark blue. She does seem to be a man magnet for car enthusiasts in the way that Wispa is for outdoor fellas in camo. Wasted on me, I don't want a relationship and wouldn't have time or energy for one.

 

Perhaps Jayne and I should do a car and dog swap for a week! I like landys and black hairy dogs.

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