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  1. Well I may have missed out a few details - here's the 'long version': I bought some pizzas (6) which were buy 1 get 2 free, and each pizza had 2 coupons for Appletise products (which I love but usually can't afford),I tried to scan the coupons before scanning the pizzas, only to be told you have to scan coupons after you've scanned your shopping, so I scan the pizzas and the Appletise, then the coupons, but they have to be 'approved' by the staff member, she came back and tried to tell me I'd got 6 bottles in my bag, but only scanned 5, andthen noticed where the coupons were coming from (the pizzas in my shopping bag), told me I shouldn't do it that way - so I showed her the pizza box which said 'use the tear of coupons on this pack RIGHT NOW!' and she stomped off in a huff! I was quite ready to 'hand back' the Appletise, pay for MY pizzas and then purchase the Appletise. I have to add, she was the same staff member who tried to tell me some months ago that I shouldn't be putting the bag count as 3 when I was using my own bags instead of the Tesco ones - I'd bought some shoes and didn't want them in the same bag as my bread and milk. I think we have one big old personality clash, but I am The Customer and therefore I am Always Right LOL
  2. Behavior Modification for Itchy Dogs Some ideas here.....
  3. oh yes, forgot to say, grumpy v grumpy doesn't end well for one of them (and today it wasn't looking good for the jobsworth on the DIY till in Tescos who tried to tell me I'd only scanned 5 items but got 6 in my bag)
  4. Turning 50 flipped a switch in me too - I wasn't going to be pushed around by anyone any more, so maybe there's something in it.
  5. He's not an 'orse, he's a very norty boy........ This is Pegasus, he's one of the riding school horses that we use for the Ride High programme, and I think I'm ever so very slightly in lurv... He's got the most wonderful moustache (as do many of the cobs at the stables, even though they live out 24/7) and is rather naughty - they were supposed to have been doing trots to the rear of the ride - he got the first bit right - but wouldn't stop at the end of the ride - he just kept going, and going, round and round....... Luckily his rider saw the funny side, but I did have visions of having to throw myself infront of him to get him to stop! LOL
  6. Ouch, poor little lass, hope she's alright and she can get back on her new horse - 16.1 sounds awfully big for a 12 year old. I've just started to get involved with a local charity called Ride high which works with disadvantaged youngsters who wouldn't get the chance to get involved with horses otherwise. They are taught about horses and their care, as well as being taught to ride. As well as their weekly lesson, we also like to offer them the chance to go on horse orientated outtings - they were at the Shire Horse Show the other week, they've been to Towcester Racecourse on a race day, changing of the gaurd and the Royal Mews, Warhorse, and they are going to Spillers Mills soon, I've asked a friend who has a trakhener stud if they can visit there. Can anyone think of any other 'horsey' locations they could visit?
  7. K9Fran

    Cbt

    Has anyone tried this for 'work phobia' and/or rejection? Basically, I've always been a high achiever, but prone to stress/anxiety when I perceive I could 'fail' - dropped out of O level accounts because I was 'only' getting 6/10 (still took the exam and got a D after only attending 6 lessons) Left school at 17 and worked at a Stud, but had to give up due to a back injury. Started 'temping' where mistakes were accepted, but struggled when the assignment came to an end as I always felt it was personal. I became a Mum aged 22, and suffered with PMT - again, common among high achievers Started temping again when little one was 5 - more signs of stress and had a breakdown after a couple of years. Returned to work again, this time perm, but not happy with the level of mistakes I was making and would change jobs every year or so (before they could reject me) In 1992, after 12 years of marriage, and 18 months in a job I loved, I was sacked for a minor mistake (entering a credit note as an invoice)(they could do that in those days, you have to have been employed for 2 years before you had any security. At the same time my marriage broke down and we got divorced. A year later I met big Dave and we settled down, had two wonderful boys and I became a SAHM until 2004 - started working SE, but by 2007 we needed a more dependable income due to large credit card debts - so I started temping again - struggled with the 'rejection' side of it again (broke down several times in work, during this time Big Dave was in hospital with a AB resistant infection in his leg - this has now recurred!) Secured a 'perm' job in Feb 2008, only to be made 'redundant' (it was actually to cover maternity leave in everything but name), found my dream job a week later - was made redundant from that just before Christmas last year (still paranoid that it was the number of mistakes I made, even though I know I was struggling to maintain my level of service as the business more than doubled its income during the 2 years I was there and two additional staff were taken on to 'sell' but I had no extra time to provide support for these extra 'sales') Now I find myself panicking when asked to apply for a job that feels like it's going to put me back in this position again - I just can't take that again) Could CBT help?
  8. I used to ride a moped (from when I was about 17 until I passed my car test about 13 years later) I loved it, and even went on to pass my full motorbike licence. However, you are very exposed, you need to learn to ride defensively, and you need good protective gear (trousers and jacket and ofcourse crash helmet). I used to do 80 miles a day three days a week at one point. If I didn't have the kids and the dogs and an OH who works shifts (so his car isn't available out of the normal 9-5) I'd go back to it. My Mum and my ex MIL also used to ride mopeds - Mum's was a Mobylette and MIL's was a Raleigh... (I had a Honda PC 50, and then a PC 70 and PC 90)
  9. I had to do this for a local show I was advertising Puppy School at. It completley skipped my mind that it may be windy on the day - and ofcourse it was, so 'gazebo taking flight' wasn't in my RA....
  10. Asda have an offer on their smoked and non smoked Gammon joints - 2 for £10 (2 x 1.3kg) so I popped themm both in mine, with about an inch or two of water, cooked on high for about 4 hours (meat thermometer is a boon here) - letting them chill in the conservatory over night, and will slice them thinly in the morning for sandwich ham, as my snotty kids won't eat the wet pink stuff) With even the cheaper sliced ham @ £2.50 for 400g, I should make a saving..
  11. Huge shouldar of lamb in mine today. Lots of recipes/ideas here: Money Saving Expert Slow Cooking Recipes Don't forget you won't need as much liquid as you would with a 'normal' recipe, and don't keep lifting the lid to poke/stir. Also useful for steaming sponges etc.
  12. Barney's favourite toy (apart from Tennis balls) is 'mop' which is an industrial mop head similar to http://www.supplylinedirect.com/assets/items/un-1324.jpg He's had his a good couple of years now, and it's great for taking frustrations out on. I've often thought about sewing a bell or squeaker into it for added value, but he seems to love it just as it is. He also knows it's name, and when he gets into 'shouty' mode, we tell him to 'go find mop' and he vents his anger on that instead of shouting.
  13. My experience of Shires and their crosses is never assume anything - they can just as likely take after the 'non shire' side. Loveliest, most forward going horse I ever road was a roan shire cross called Esther. Re lameness - if a horse is lame in two diagonal feet, they can well appear sound
  14. going without stirrups - concentrate on pushing heels down. If you do feel you are tipping to one side - push the other leg down.
  15. The usual suspects - starlings (lots of) woodies, collard doves, blackbirds, robins, sparra's, chaffinches, goldfinches, greenfinches, blue and great tits, long tailed tits. Todays special was a Grey Wagtail
  16. Pig oil is good for mites and mud fever in hairy beasties
  17. K9Fran

    Breedist...

    You want to try walking a Labradoodle
  18. I took a first level course in technology in 1999 and started a second level biology course in 2000. Sadly I didn't get to finish it after my Dad died. I made friends who still mean a lot to me. The whole experience was worth every penny.
  19. Interesting stuff Lester, thanks for that. He is already a member of the BS. His crossdressing takes the form of 'female impersonation' - he likes to look as much like a woman as he can for a few hours every couple of months. He's the father of at least 3 and possibly 4 boys, so as 95% of men with the condition you described are infertile, it would truly make almost one in a million if he had it. Things are going fairly well at the moment. He still wants to rush ahead with me being involved with his fetishes, but I am ensuring I am going to take my own time and not be pressured.
  20. But what if your OH didn't want to be a cross dresser? what if he didn't want the information to be shared amongst family and friends, so when he did something really stupid (like leaving an earring out - I don't wear earrings) or 'borrowed' some of your clothes when you'd asked him not to. And believe me, it's different to women who wear trousers (as I do most of the time), very different. I didn't think it would bother me, I was used to men dressing up in Am Dram, but when it's 'your man' who wants to share you with another 'woman' it's very different.
  21. Thank you everyone for your input. I can understand how women in physically abusive relationships put up with it. At least I have the weapons to fight this one. I'm a much stronger person now than I was when I first met him, so he's got two choices - take the new me, or walk, and he doesn't want to walk. We had a good chat yesterday, and he's decided to stay. We are working round ways of doing things that he likes AND things that I like - one of the biggest problems being that I work 09.00 - 15.30 and he works 24/7 shifts, and we have two teenage sons, so 'grown up time' on our own is very limited, and money has been tight too. but we're in the middle of remortgaging, and that should leave some funds free for a 'night of debaurchary' or similar in a local hotel once a month.... Did I mention he's also a cross dresser? I have been having counselling for these issues, and he's agreed to come to me to one of the counselling organisations that Littlegreensquirrel posted about, so hopefully that will get him back into the habit of talking to me about things. As a couple, we are very 'independent' and tend to rely on each other for friendship, luckily my boss is also a good friend and open minded, and he's helped me a lot over the last few days to stay strong. Men! Why can't they be 'normal' like us women?
  22. Olives (stolen from my parents cocktail cabinet aged 9) Fisherman's Friends Chilli My fingers after picking up a leaking bleach bottle in a supermarket (going to open a carrier bag, so licked them) Trying to gut a Christmas Turkey - 'get right down behind it' says MIL, but she didn't tell me to keep my mouth closed, and the gall bladder popped!
  23. I don't know how much more I can take. My first marriage broke up when I asked OH to give me and our son some space, because his withdrawal and temper tantrums were dragging the whole family down - he responded by seeing a solicitor the following day and suing for divorce - the grounds being my unreasonable behaviour. Now OH#2 is doing the self same thing - he's got himself in a hole and is convinced I am the reason, because I won't go along with his 'fantisies/fetishes'. I used to do what I could but found myself getting increasingly stressed, possibly because I was raped by a boyfriend when I was 18. I've sought counselling to help me come to terms with it, but OH is pushing me to get involved again, and because I don't yet feel ready, he is withdrawing. The problem is, i understand that the blaming somebody else is part of being depressed, as is being angry, frustrated etc (I'm currently taking anti depressants myself), but he won't talk to me about it.
  24. 40p per mile is often quoted, as that is the figure you can claim tax relief on if you don't claim your mileage from your employer. This does not mean it costs 40p mile to run a car. The actual figure is probably closer to 25p per mile. IF you're not able to claim the full 40p from your employer, you should be able to claim the balance on your tax return. HTH
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